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#2242727 - 05/04/12 01:22 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: Use to be]
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Keep practicing that. You'll get better at it over time.

How about your physical changes?
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#2242729 - 05/04/12 01:31 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: MrBond]
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MrBond, I am pushing her farther and further away. In fact wednesday is where she called me to talk about our boy but I screw it. Yes I would still want her to be back but my mind and heart don't speak the same langauage and it keep messing things up.

For physical changes, this might involve $$$ and as she do not want to see me yet I will have to do it later. I am about to go out of job soon

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#2242731 - 05/04/12 01:38 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: Use to be]
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"Yes I would still want her to be back but my mind and heart don't speak the same langauage and it keep messing things up."

That's why you have to learn to be calm. What nationality are you if I may ask?

In terms of the physical changes, they don't need to include money. You can get a new haircut (you get one every month anyway right?). You can work out at a park, go running, do pushups, do things that make you healthy and stronger.

You need to get stronger in body and mind.
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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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#2242735 - 05/04/12 01:56 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: MrBond]
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I am a chinese from Singapore so I am a Singaporean.
I used to play soccer every weekend.

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#2242737 - 05/04/12 02:00 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: Use to be]
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Okay it helps me understand you better. I have alot of Chinese friends and some from Singapore, so I get it.

Good. Then start working out again. It will make you feel better. It will get you healthier. It will get your mind off of your wife. And you will start to look better.
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2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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#2242739 - 05/04/12 02:13 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: MrBond]
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But one of the reason why she left me is because I left her alone at home to look after our new born kid and I went for soccer.

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#2242741 - 05/04/12 02:16 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: Use to be]
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You don't get it.

It's not that she didn't want you to go to soccer. She just didn't like being left alone with the baby. You don't understand that she needed help with the baby and you didn't give it to her. If you would have helped her more, you could've gone to soccer as many times as you want.

So since she doesn't live with you any more, go out and play soccer, but be sure to not let that interfere with your time with your son.

When you're with your son, how about taking a photo of him and you playing and just sending that to your wife? One photo only and no texts.
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2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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#2242746 - 05/04/12 02:34 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: MrBond]
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I did that. I send it to her.
So MrBond, I got to work on my physical and I got to work on being a good dad.

For my phyiscal, I am not fat but I do have small tummy.

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#2242751 - 05/04/12 02:48 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: Use to be]
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"I did that. I send it to her."

That's good. Just one photo so that she sees you're having fun with him and that you're responsible. Don't send it with any messages.

The physical is to also help your mind get healthy.
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M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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#2242762 - 05/04/12 03:06 AM Re: Saving my marriage even she file for a divorce [Re: MrBond]
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MrBond you know my lawyer is fightting against the divorce, do you think I hurt her by doing this?

I messed up the whole once loving family. If only i have not done that.

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