Well. I didn't speak much. Just stated that I would like to resolve our differences and work things out. She wants a D. She wants to start the process almost ASAP.
She also started sort of being difficult about the kids. Not liking them staying at my house during the school week. Although they have been here for 4 1/2 months. Also started stating stuff for the holidays. Like I have a small family and she doesn't want the kids sitting home alone with me on xmas, thxgiving etc..
I'm bummed out but sort of new it was coming. Nothing got escalated. Again just let her knew I respected her feelings and let her know mine.
It's hard now taking the hat off and putting kids first for negotiation but not allowing her to doormat me during mediation.
Yeah and she already started emailing about changing the kids schedule. I'm really trying to keep this civil and not make it a custody battle. But we don't agree about the kids (3,6) and them sleeping over dads during the school week. I truly believe they are ok with it and need overnights with dad
if my sitch gets to the divorce stage, i've already advised my H that i will not discuss anything with him, only with a third party. he can inform that third party of what he wants and i will inform them of what i want.
i will not discuss D terms with someone i am trying to be a friend to. that would not work. you might want to think about it, too?
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
LA nope. I can't talk to her. When I don't agree to her changes she threatens me with L. She knows I don't want to go lawyer route cause of cost and my business so she is using that against me.
What I'm hearing(reading) is you're going to agree to something you don't want and don't think is best for your kids because she's threatening you with a L?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
