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#2242003 - 05/01/12 11:45 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: PowerOfNow]
2thepoint Member Registered: 09/30/11 Posts: 1660	...and keeps you chapped and emotionally dehydrated. _________________________ Me48 W50 S14 S11 M19 T22 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11 It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation. Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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#2242104 - 05/01/12 05:23 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: 2thepoint]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1914	Well. I didn't speak much. Just stated that I would like to resolve our differences and work things out. She wants a D. She wants to start the process almost ASAP. She also started sort of being difficult about the kids. Not liking them staying at my house during the school week. Although they have been here for 4 1/2 months. Also started stating stuff for the holidays. Like I have a small family and she doesn't want the kids sitting home alone with me on xmas, thxgiving etc.. I'm bummed out but sort of new it was coming. Nothing got escalated. Again just let her knew I respected her feelings and let her know mine. It's hard now taking the hat off and putting kids first for negotiation but not allowing her to doormat me during mediation. Wow this is tough to swallow _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2242229 - 05/02/12 01:22 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: PowerOfNow]
Sad in WI Member Registered: 03/01/12 Posts: 218	Net, Sorry about your day, but you are in my thoughts and prayers. SIW _________________________ M:37 W:34 S:10 D:6 2/29/12 - I don't love you but we can be friends 3/27/12 - W has consulation with L I won't give up on us Even if the skies get rough
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#2242240 - 05/02/12 05:34 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: Sad in WI]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1914	Yeah and she already started emailing about changing the kids schedule. I'm really trying to keep this civil and not make it a custody battle. But we don't agree about the kids (3,6) and them sleeping over dads during the school week. I truly believe they are ok with it and need overnights with dad _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2242246 - 05/02/12 06:47 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: PowerOfNow]
scaredsilly Member Registered: 01/12/12 Posts: 1216	if my sitch gets to the divorce stage, i've already advised my H that i will not discuss anything with him, only with a third party. he can inform that third party of what he wants and i will inform them of what i want. i will not discuss D terms with someone i am trying to be a friend to. that would not work. you might want to think about it, too? _________________________ M:63 H:53 S:40, SS:27, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16 Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
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#2242264 - 05/02/12 08:58 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: scaredsilly]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5375 Loc: Sonoran Desert	Mediation is for people who can agree on things. Do you think that's the best way for you and wife? _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2242294 - 05/02/12 10:01 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: labug]
sayitaintso Member Registered: 11/04/11 Posts: 846	Sorry Net. Don't give in to any of your W's demands. Do what you feel is in the best interest of your kids. _________________________ Me- 34 W-33 S15 S10 S6 Married- 11 Together- 18 Bomb- 6-2011 WAW moves out- 8-2011 "Nothing in the Universe can stop you from letting go and starting over at anytime"- Guy Finley
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#2242304 - 05/02/12 10:36 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: sayitaintso]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1914	LA nope. I can't talk to her. When I don't agree to her changes she threatens me with L. She knows I don't want to go lawyer route cause of cost and my business so she is using that against me. _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2242306 - 05/02/12 10:40 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: PowerOfNow]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5375 Loc: Sonoran Desert	What I'm hearing(reading) is you're going to agree to something you don't want and don't think is best for your kids because she's threatening you with a L? _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2242321 - 05/02/12 11:33 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 10 [Re: labug]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1914	Well what she believes is fair 50/50 is not what I believe. _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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