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You asked for examples of how you ordered her around. That's what I gave you.
I told you already about the paying attention part.
Here is your example: your wife is not paying attention to you so now you started paying attention to her. See?
Here is another example: You ignored your wife and her needs before and if you look back, you ignored them. She told you about how she needed more help with your son before she said she wanted a divorce, but you ignored her. See? You stopped paying attention to her, so she paid more attention to you.
ANYWAY! It's just simple psychology and I'm not going to keep giving you examples.
The question is: Are you going to start doing what I and others have suggested? And, no I am not going to repeat myself again. You're going to have to read through what was posted before and truly understand.
You have to change before your wife can even think of coming back. It doesn't matter if she is there to see them or not. You make these changes for yourself. She will see those changes later.
But don't make changes and tell your wife "see I'm changing!" Because that's what you're doing and they are driving your wife away.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Today my boss told me I don't suit the job I am currently working as. She ask me whether I want to change my job. She know my family problem since Jan 2012 but she let me hold on to the job till today.