You can have hope while detached.

It's like when you have a friend who is an alcoholic. You hope that one day they'll be okay, but you aren't emotionally attached too much.

It's when you hope so much that it starts affecting you that it's not detachment.

Thx I understand. It just seems like for me I feel like there is hope. We went to mediator. She said 200% she wants a divorce. But now I feel like until she makes the next appointment or I get served papers there is hope. I know it sounds crazy. I try not to obsess over it but I always do feel like I am in limbo.

I made it back into my office today. Although noone is in so its still quiet

Net thinking about you and hoping you have a good weekend! Go out and have some fun.

my W emailed me no mediator. Getting a L and going after kids and money

Net....there was always that chance..Just breathe and take it a moment at a time. You will be okay. Do you have a L?

sorry my W emailed me saying she refuses to use a mediator she obtained a lawyer and is coming after my financials etc

Sorry to hear this, netmaster. Now is the time to get yourself a L if you haven't already so that you can best protect yourself and your kids. Perhaps the mediator gave her an indication that she wasn't going to get as much as she wants through that process?

get a lawyer and don't communicate with her anymore about anything but the kids' welfare.

What did the mediator tell you both?

mediator thought we would not be able to mediate with 1 lawyer that we both need lawyers. plus she making threats now too