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Originally Posted By: netmaster
...we are going Tuesday to start the divorce process. It's official. Unless some miracle happens.


OK Net, this is your reality. How you deal with this reality will determine whether or not you come out of this better or worse for the wear.

You have been given some excellent advice over the past few months. One of the most important has to do with how you manage your emotions. What happened to all that work you were doing and progress you were making with your (I think it was a Tai Chi instructor)?

Now is the time to put all that you have learned into practice. Don't you agree? If you do, then do it and stop talking about it. Really!

Regarding miracles....make your own. Think positive, regardless of outcome. Chart your own course and move bravely forward.


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Chi counselor. Positive energy or chi.

One thing I've beat myself up badly about the last few months is she makes me feel responsible for the state of her health. The adrenal fatigue, anxiety, panic attacks etc.. Do you think it is possible that I made her get sick. My counselor says no. She told me in one of our confrontations since youve been gone Ive felt great. I just can't believe that 1 person could make another person physically sick unless there was some sort of abuse or something. I really beat myself up bad because I truly feel if that is possible then I feel like a dirt bag.

Anyways 2thepoint. Im going to try to be non reactive. take the high road where i can. Try to be fair but not a doormat. I'm going to try to listen and let the mediator do the mediating. Its not going to be easy that is for sure.

I thought those 37 points were suppose to be used so you never reach the point I'm at

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they are FOR the point you're at, so you can rescue yourself, and possibly your marriage


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I finally detached took an actual divorce process 4 me to do this.

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Just like that?


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Well I'm proud. Went to kids event . Kissed kids goodbye in front of her. Said goodbye and left with no guilt. In the past I would have buckled kids in car catered and felt guilty..

I'm nervous for tuesday. I want to try to listen for 1.5 hours and not talk. This is nearly impossible for a hamster on steroids

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Quote:
"I'm nervous for tuesday. I want to try to listen for 1.5 hours and not talk. This is nearly impossible for a hamster on steroids"


Then forego the steroid shot for the next few days and go see your Chi instructor just before your meeting so you come in feeling relaxed and in control.

Sound like a plan?


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Net,

I am praying for you brother.

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Yes and thanks

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I'm having trouble accepting divorce folks

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