Net its just one door closing....God never closes a door without opening a window. Maybe this is what is needed to start a new relationship with her. The space and time that is needed to get everyone'e head right could be just what is needed here.

Have faith and send out your wishes to the universe. You have the power within you to make things the way you want them to be. Make it so.

Yes I think its the fact that she told my S dad is never sleeping at home again. That closed any hope I had.

Going to counseling now. Trying to completely detach

My counselor says I won't detach until I cut the thread and accept that she is divorcing me

Then take a breath and accept. Think of the Indy movie with Harrison Ford where he had to have faith that the bridge was there and take a step.

Take that first step Net....

Just because this chapter is closing doesn't mean the book is finished.

Is obsessive crying normal. I've been so upset all day.

Hi Netmaster,
I'm new here but I read your thread and I think that one thing that has been helping me cope better was this thought:

Have you ever seen those money trees? The braided tree? I figure that is us. We are all born with our own path our own root, as our spouses are. We each make own choices and may disagree with the others' choices. We are not responsible for their health, for their thoughts, for their emotions. Nor are they for ours.

Our trees become intertwined at different points in life, where we feel secure with each other. But the tree needs to grow. Sometimes a branch will veer off, and it may come back on it's own, or it may be 'trained' (which I take as a higher power). Most importantly, on our own, our root WILL survive. Just keep upright.

Thx LIO.

I have a feeling Kd and everyone else following hamster aren't surprised that this day has come

Reminder, Net......take slow deep breaths!