Why do 60% of second marriages fail??? Because people did not fix their s&%t the first time! I am a firm believer that if you do not fix the issues with your current/first spouse and yourself, you are going to make the same mistakes in the second one.
For me, I am working on my issues--BEFORE I move to a new relationship. I want to be my most authenic self when I branch out again. My soon to be Ex--he has already moved to a new cow so to speak......God help her.
AprilT I do agree with you. I'm working on myself and discovered how much workload I have on myself. Making SLOW progress but I have so much work to do. MY W this is her 2nd marriage and it's failiing too. I suspect her 3rd would too because she refuses to accept any responsibility for the collapse of this one.
I will not move into any other relationship until I have myself sorted out and believe me when I tell you I have more work then I even could imagine.
I'm not where I want to be yet that is for sure. I still make mistakes with her. Just today even. If I just listened from day 1 and completely let her go I would be in a much better place today. Instead I (ME and only ME) allowed her to take me on an emotional roller coaster. Again ONLY me. This are my choices and how I react to the situation. From this day forward I'm trying to let her completely go outside of the kids.