2thepoint in your opinion why do you think my W every month when she gets into this "rage stage" threaten me with D but doesn't take action. Is it the guilt thing. Plus I'm pretty sure she is going to meet with a L this week or next week to see what her options are. The free consult. I actually did 2 of them and I was actually surprised both L's said D [censored] think about it and fight for it..

"Walk away. Don't respond etc.."

No I only meant that in the cases when you're arguing and she's spewing at you.

When you have your kids and they can see you both, don't ignore her totally and look like a jerk. You don't want to make them have to remember this.

Say 'hi' in a pleasant manner to your W, smile and know that you're going to spend the best time of your life with your kids. Show her that you're actually happy without her.

well Mr. B she was spewing that crap in front of the kids that is what I meant by putting them in the car and leaving

Then be sure to pull her to the side away from the kids and talk to her. Be the adult and lead when dealing with her. hard but necessary.

Mr. B am I reading this right. You're still DB and have been on here since 2008?

yep.

Wow that is some patience. Are you living with her or apart

Apart. After the bomb she demanded I leave, yeah right. I told her if she's unhappy, then she had to leave. So she packed up her stuff that day and went.

We see each other every weekend, hang out and are rebuilding our friendship. She still has issues, but they are hers and hers alone.

What she probably sees... is that her H becomes a complete basket case and idiot ever month...

You are her mirror... but she doesn't see herself... she sees you... which is why she doesn't like you so much...

stop reflecting...

KD thx. That makes actual sense to me. I'm reacting to her rage which in turn is making it look like I haven't changed a bit.