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#2240000 - 04/23/12 08:38 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1759	Part 9 _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2240008 - 04/23/12 09:35 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: PowerOfNow]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5234 Loc: Sonoran Desert	Starting a new thread won't get you out of answering this question: Quote: The statistics are that 50% of all first marriages fail and 60% of second marriages. Why do you think that is? And anew one: Who would you be honest with? Hope you had a good weekend. _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2240063 - 04/23/12 11:55 AM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: labug]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1759	I'm guessing 50% and 60% happen is because when you get married their are 4 people at the alter. H & W. H issues, W issues. Plain an simple. I would have to learn to be honest with myself. My weekend has some terrible moments because I let it be. _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2240069 - 04/23/12 12:07 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: PowerOfNow]
AprilT Member Registered: 03/26/12 Posts: 127 Loc: Georgia	Why do 60% of second marriages fail??? Because people did not fix their s&%t the first time! I am a firm believer that if you do not fix the issues with your current/first spouse and yourself, you are going to make the same mistakes in the second one. For me, I am working on my issues--BEFORE I move to a new relationship. I want to be my most authenic self when I branch out again. My soon to be Ex--he has already moved to a new cow so to speak......God help her.
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#2240071 - 04/23/12 12:10 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: AprilT]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1759	AprilT I do agree with you. I'm working on myself and discovered how much workload I have on myself. Making SLOW progress but I have so much work to do. MY W this is her 2nd marriage and it's failiing too. I suspect her 3rd would too because she refuses to accept any responsibility for the collapse of this one. I will not move into any other relationship until I have myself sorted out and believe me when I tell you I have more work then I even could imagine. _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2240073 - 04/23/12 12:13 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: PowerOfNow]
AprilT Member Registered: 03/26/12 Posts: 127 Loc: Georgia	Net you are in a good place! Celebrate the small steps and enjoy the freedom it gives you to be your most "amazing" self:) Rootin for ya!
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#2240081 - 04/23/12 12:30 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: AprilT]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1759	I'm not where I want to be yet that is for sure. I still make mistakes with her. Just today even. If I just listened from day 1 and completely let her go I would be in a much better place today. Instead I (ME and only ME) allowed her to take me on an emotional roller coaster. Again ONLY me. This are my choices and how I react to the situation. From this day forward I'm trying to let her completely go outside of the kids. _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2240152 - 04/23/12 03:36 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: PowerOfNow]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5234 Loc: Sonoran Desert	Originally Posted By: netmaster I'm guessing 50% and 60% happen is because when you get married their are 4 people at the alter. H & W. H issues, W issues. Plain an simple. I would have to learn to be honest with myself. My weekend has some terrible moments because I let it be. Yay, Net! _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2240189 - 04/23/12 05:31 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: labug]
PowerOfNow Member Registered: 01/16/12 Posts: 1759	going to mediator. I've had enough. Thx all. I'm all done with her _________________________ m:38W:41-M:9 yrs-S7,D4 12/17/11-W asks me to move out. 12/27/11 - I moved out. 07/17/12-12/31/12-W asks me to move out again. 2/05/13-All is good 5/22/13 - Disconnected again
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#2240190 - 04/23/12 05:32 PM Re: Recently Seperated Part 9 [Re: PowerOfNow]
MrBond Member Registered: 06/18/08 Posts: 7884	That was pretty quick from what you just posted a couple of hours ago. Did something happen? _________________________ M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5 Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
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