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you hit the nail on the head with that. my drinking betrayed her trust.

as far as getting that back...idk.. i'm going to my aa meetings, did treatment, havent drank, i'm going to church. i am very serious about my sobriety. i think it scares her in a way.

i'm looking at her like an addiction now. let go and let god. i cant change her, only myself. it is so discouraging tho. sobriety is alot eaier for me right now.

i have to let her go somehow. idk how tho.


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"i have to let her go somehow. idk how tho."

By doing this... i'm going to my aa meetings, did treatment, havent drank, i'm going to church.


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thank you


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court in 45 mins for my dui. hope it goes well. W just txt me to meet her there at 10 to make some changes to our temp custody agreement. she stole it out of my truck last night. i need to stay calm and nice.

Please Lord, help me..


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Good luck. Hope all goes well. Remember to stop letting her do that type of stuff to you. That's breaking and entering.


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thank you. court went ok. have to sit 29 days in jail, with work release. W was not nice at all. no surprise there. i managed to stay calm. she still yelled. whatever. told her the next time she takes my stuff im callin the cops. didnt go over well.

im worried about my kids. i report to jail by may 24th. job might be on the line cuz i cant travel due to custody issues. oh well. my kids are more important


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ok just some random questions..

-is it appropriate for married people of the opposite sex to be friends?

-when does being friends cross the line?

-what does "just friends" mean?

-if my W doesnt wear her ring, should i?

anyway.. been a pretty miserable day. went to an aa meeting. that was good. reminded me how much of a moron i am. why dont i treat this like my alcoholism? i need too. my quote i live by with aa is "misery is optional". that can apply to this too.

she was home when i got back. hasnt left. actin kinda nice. said her place wont be ready till the 15th. the way shes acting scares me. i think she is up to something. just dont know what. im gonna act as if im fine too. who knows? it could turn out good.


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something i just read...

No matter how difficult something you or a loved one faces, it should not take over your life and be the center of all your interest. Challenges are growth experiences, temporary scenes to be played out on the background of a pleasant life. Don’t become so absorbed in a single event that you can’t think of anything else or care for yourself or for those who depend upon you. Remember, much like the mending of the body, the healing of some spiritual and emotional challenges takes time.


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ok...so W is still talking to OM. thats all i know about. she said she is "taking care of it". i've heard that before. she hasn't. she still continues this communication. i told her this morning if it continues i am filing for divorce. i am not threatening either. i can not deal with this kind of thing. i will never be able to look at her the same way, knowing she is purposefully choosing a married guy over her H and kids. i have been trying my best to stay positive. it isnt going so well.

i think she is up to something. i am scared she is going to take the kids. i have no idea what to do right now. i am so confused. i feel like i shouldnt have said if it continues im filing. that is how i feel, deep down. i said it with no emotion. i dont have any left. i am numb.

i really need some help. any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated


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Speak to the head of your church first for spiritual strength, then talk to a L ASAP. Find out what your rights are and be sure you mention how you are afraid she is going to do something to paint you in a bad light. Protect yourself and your kids.


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