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Whaaaaat!?!? You're worried about her cycles, you should have yours checked.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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nope it is her. She flipped out on me. Absolutely calling me names and vulgarity. Said she was waiting until dog episode was done. Shes wanted out for a very long time. I'm tired of having her feel trapped. it blows believe me but there is no working with her. She wants it, I'm not fighting it anymore. I'll let her do the work.She was more worried about pulling the trigger and explaining to kids. This isn't me but 2 years of verbal abuse is way to much

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LA you don't know 1/2 of it. So easy ok. Every 2 weeks for 3 years but most likely (10) I've gotten this verbal rotten abuse. It will be better for the kids. i truly believe that. I can't enjoy them like this

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You're right.

Good luck.


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Thx. Sorry I meant to say she is going to mediator and I finally said ok. That I'm ok with it.

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and btw I know I failed in every aspect of this separation. I didn't detach. I pursued even when I thought I wasn't. I wasn't patient. My anxiety got the absolute best of me. I've completely failed. Having no job absolutely killed me too

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I'm so pissed at myself. Honestly pissed off for myself for wrecking my family. I'm a real azzhole. Maybe now I finally detach after shes gone

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Reading through all my posts from 2thepoint, LA, Mr. Bond, KD etc.. I blew it. I should have just listened. Leave her 250% completely be.

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Sorry LA. Today went the exact opposite of what I planned. Can't even tell you what I was planning for today and actually what happened

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Originally Posted By: netmaster
... I blew it. I should have just listened. Leave her 250% completely be.


OK, so now you say you are DONE! Now, more than ever you need to remember and live your statement above! Stop being the moth flying into the zapper! Stop jumping on the hamster wheel!

Can you do it? Will you do it?


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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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