i'm just catching up.. haven't been around as much.
you sound a lot stronger. a lot happier. i'm so glad!!!
agree w/ 2pac.. no expectations. but there is always hope.
you and i have come a loooooongg way! and you know what?? we are surviving.. and thriving..
happy bday to D2! such a great age! my D will be 3 this october. they grow up too fast. lol. tonight, she kept getting out of bed and when we said.. go to bed! she started doing this very weird random dance that you just couldn't help but laugh at. sigh. love them so much!
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Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
Hi All - I am feeling pretty good these past few days even though D paperwork is being worked on. My H has not filed persumably because we will work through all the details prior to filing so the process is uncontested. (I HATE WRITTING THESE WORDS ITS MAKES ME SO MAD)
One thing I have struggled with since this began is figuring out what I need to own and what has nothing to do with me. That issue came up for me yesterday and I am looking for some feedback.
H & I texted a bit last night after D3 had a evaluation with a speech therapist. I gave H an email update but I also threw in some silly banter. Surprisingly H continued with the emailing. That emailing had ended then an hour later my D2 took her first poop on the potty. Thats a big occasion. I mean she just turned two on friday. So I texted H a picture of her poop in the kiddie potty and said "Guess who made this?"
he wrote back "That is great!! Um. Thanks for the photographic evidence. I am not sure I would have believed you"
then I wrote "I knew how proud you would be so I thought I would give you some proof. Now you can show off to your cage fighting friends"
H never wrote back. So now I think I offended him by referring to his cage fighting friends, which are his new buddies that he does kick boxing with - a lot of them are also cage fighters. I just think cage fighters and a little girls poop are funny together. Did the tone of my text make it sound like I was mocking him for hanging out with cage fighters? Am I too sarcastic? Is H too sensitive? Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? Any thoughts would be appreciated.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
That is good news! Of course as a vision to your future I had to get on to my kids for not flushing the toilet. The view is so less thrilling when they are 10 & 13!
You meant it in good will, and you can't control how he took it so let it go. If he took it wrong, this its up to him if he wants to address it and you can explain, otherwise it just water (or poop) under the bridge....
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
H & I texted a bit last night after D3 had a evaluation with a speech therapist. I gave H an email update but I also threw in some silly banter. Surprisingly H continued with the emailing. That emailing had ended then an hour later my D2 took her first poop on the potty. Thats a big occasion. I mean she just turned two on friday. So I texted H a picture of her poop in the kiddie potty and said "Guess who made this?"
he wrote back "That is great!! Um. Thanks for the photographic evidence. I am not sure I would have believed you"
then I wrote "I knew how proud you would be so I thought I would give you some proof. Now you can show off to your cage fighting friends"
H never wrote back. So now I think I offended him by referring to his cage fighting friends, which are his new buddies that he does kick boxing with - a lot of them are also cage fighters. I just think cage fighters and a little girls poop are funny together. Did the tone of my text make it sound like I was mocking him for hanging out with cage fighters? Am I too sarcastic? Is H too sensitive? Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? Any thoughts would be appreciated.
BK - don't worry about what he thinks about what you wrote. Who cares? Really! If you spend all your energy worrying about whether or not he approves, you are wasting your time. Live your life and be happy.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
Great texting and yes don't worry about what hes thinking. I know easier said than done!
Side note...did you read the book the social animal? Or do you just know your h is reading it?
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
they grow up too fast. lol. tonight, she kept getting out of bed and when we said.. go to bed! she started doing this very weird random dance that you just couldn't help but laugh at. sigh. love them so much!