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I totally get where you are with money crap. My h. and are are in the thick of it. How much and how retirement is determined and the length of spousal support are our hot issues right now. You totally deserve pension. What does the law say? I seen websites specifically dealing with military retirement pension and divorce. But your lawyer should be able to help. Hang oin there.
He is looking to see you as unreasonable. Nothing you will say will be logical to him. I suggest when he engages in the conversation again you say "I will do whatever my L recommends" and try to leave it at that. It doesnt matter that you are right. He will never (at this point) agree with you. He will seek out people that only agree with him. Take yourself out of the debate.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Loc: Los Angeles, CA
Good luck Purg. You got a lot of great advice. I was going to say just about the same as everyone else. Keep the talk simple. If he wants to go back and forth, have him talk to your L. That's why you have a L. Continue what you're doing. Maintaining your serenity. Don't engage in his defensive talk.
Thinking of you...
M 38 H 35 T7 (-2yrs separation) S5 D2 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciling