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#2234003 - 03/28/12 07:33 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: rickb89]
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Originally Posted By: rickb89
What I will never understand is the choice. THis is the moment where any of our M's could leap into a greater level than ever before. Because it's broken it can be rebuilt, and if it hadn't been broken it could not have been rebuilt.

Well two things come to mind here.
One from those people that have reconciled there marriages I understand that the NEW marriages are better than anything they ever imagined.

And number two is that during crisis, the one in crisis is the OPPOSITE of who they have been for their whole life.
They must try every cheeseless tunnel and
fail at each one until they arrive at what was right before them the entire time.
OPPOSITE is a major theme of these crisises and their is science behind it.
But it really does explain why things do not make sense.
Because most of us are not used to living in an opposite world.
If you have ever raised teenagers you can see what OPPOSITE looks like from their point of view.
It does not make sense, eventually these teenagers become adults and it is amazing that they then think their parents now know everything.
This process is not quick, and it takes a tremendous amount of patience.
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#2234010 - 03/28/12 08:07 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Cadet]
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Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
NEW marriages are better than anything they ever imagined.

I can "feel" this. Sound's corny to be sure, but I know it has the potential to be something wonderful and fulfilling.
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Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2234023 - 03/28/12 09:01 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 03/01/12
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Have been thinking the same thing concerning new marriages. My W likes the changes that I have made, but it waiting for me to revert to my old ways.

I have told her that out old M is dead as a door nail and going forward we would have to do things much differently.
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#2234043 - 03/28/12 10:24 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Sad in WI]
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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=75911#Post75911

^^found this in the archives. Good stuff for the LBS to remember..
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Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2234059 - 03/28/12 11:23 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 12/13/11
Posts: 825
Loc: Virginia
That link is a great perspective to keep in mind! Thanks for sharing

Btw, Rickb89 is Turing Ito some sort of 'all knowing wise one'.... I shall call him Shifu.

(anyone with kids knows who this guy is)
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M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12

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#2234061 - 03/28/12 11:33 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: purgatory]
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What's up with that? Did he finally stop huffing paint or something? LOl...
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Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2234180 - 03/29/12 03:06 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 11/25/11
Posts: 8877
Loc: Sonoran Desert
Wanna play a round of Quien es mas macho?
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M35 S24 S21
Bomb 3/11 Sep 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 Reconciling

"We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same"~Carlos Castenada

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#2234184 - 03/29/12 03:25 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: labug]
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Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
Bug, I only speak American..
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Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2234329 - 03/30/12 04:28 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 12/14/11
Posts: 757
who is shifu?
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Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
M:8.. together for 11.
Bomb dropped:10/17/11
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#2234335 - 03/30/12 08:10 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: barely floating]
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"who is shifu?"

It means 'teacher' in Chinese. It's also the teacher raccoon animal in Kung Fu Panda.
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2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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