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Originally Posted By: rickb89
What I will never understand is the choice. THis is the moment where any of our M's could leap into a greater level than ever before. Because it's broken it can be rebuilt, and if it hadn't been broken it could not have been rebuilt.

Well two things come to mind here.
One from those people that have reconciled there marriages I understand that the NEW marriages are better than anything they ever imagined.

And number two is that during crisis, the one in crisis is the OPPOSITE of who they have been for their whole life.
They must try every cheeseless tunnel and
fail at each one until they arrive at what was right before them the entire time.
OPPOSITE is a major theme of these crisises and their is science behind it.
But it really does explain why things do not make sense.
Because most of us are not used to living in an opposite world.
If you have ever raised teenagers you can see what OPPOSITE looks like from their point of view.
It does not make sense, eventually these teenagers become adults and it is amazing that they then think their parents now know everything.
This process is not quick, and it takes a tremendous amount of patience.


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NEW marriages are better than anything they ever imagined.

I can "feel" this. Sound's corny to be sure, but I know it has the potential to be something wonderful and fulfilling.


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Have been thinking the same thing concerning new marriages. My W likes the changes that I have made, but it waiting for me to revert to my old ways.

I have told her that out old M is dead as a door nail and going forward we would have to do things much differently.


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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=75911#Post75911

^^found this in the archives. Good stuff for the LBS to remember..


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That link is a great perspective to keep in mind! Thanks for sharing

Btw, Rickb89 is Turing Ito some sort of 'all knowing wise one'.... I shall call him Shifu.

(anyone with kids knows who this guy is)


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What's up with that? Did he finally stop huffing paint or something? LOl...


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Wanna play a round of Quien es mas macho?


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Bug, I only speak American..


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who is shifu?


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"who is shifu?"

It means 'teacher' in Chinese. It's also the teacher raccoon animal in Kung Fu Panda.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
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