A Divorce Busting® Coach can help you save your marriage, even when your spouse wants out. Go to the new Divorce Busting® Store where you can sign up for Divorce Busting® Coaching and purchase Michele's Audios, Videos and eBooks that you can immediately download. Start taking the steps that will help you get your marriage back on track right away.
Page 2 of 9 < 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 >
Topic Options
#2233680 - 03/27/12 03:21 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
2thepoint Offline
Member

Registered: 09/30/11
Posts: 1692
Road trip!!
_________________________
Me48 W50 S15 S11
M20 T23
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife

Top
#2233716 - 03/27/12 06:36 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: 2thepoint]
rickb89 Offline
Member

Registered: 10/04/11
Posts: 1119
You, road trip. If it worked in Animal House it will work for us! Let's steal Flounder's big brothers car and hit the road.

Top
#2233719 - 03/27/12 06:42 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: rickb89]
rickb89 Offline
Member

Registered: 10/04/11
Posts: 1119
Ray...you didn't do anything to deserve what Beth is doing. These awful things just happened to the both of you, and most of them were born out of childhood trauma, not failures as human beings and partners.

You are in a place that is noble - facing the truth, owning your actions and were you are, inproving yourself, helping all of us, being a great friend, helping hundreds of others in your occupation.

You're one of the most honest people I know. Don't think otherwise just because of some very minor choices borne out of inhuman pain.

Top
#2233726 - 03/27/12 07:08 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: rickb89]
Grmpy_Mnky Offline
Member

Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
Rick, is gay marriage legal in MA? ..just saying

You rock, bro!! thanks
_________________________
Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

Top
#2233727 - 03/27/12 07:09 PM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
Grmpy_Mnky Offline
Member

Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
June it is. Vegas baby!!
_________________________
Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

Top
#2233799 - 03/28/12 12:24 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: rickb89]
Grmpy_Mnky Offline
Member

Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
Ray...you didn't do anything to deserve what Beth is doing.

As much as I like to hear this, its not entirely true. She has one shot at life and being happy just like me. It was my decision at the time to make the poor choices that I did. I can take ownnership of that. I also have made the decision to be sad and full of sorrow at this point in my life. That is my choice and she is no longer part of this process. I must make the choice to be happy, confident, and true to my changes to be a better man for good. I'm working on making this choice. This cannot be until I entirely let her go. The time has come to live for me.
_________________________
Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

Top
#2233801 - 03/28/12 12:25 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
Grmpy_Mnky Offline
Member

Registered: 12/17/11
Posts: 524
Loc: MS
Still sVcks though..lol.
_________________________
Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

Top
#2233803 - 03/28/12 12:29 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
labug Offline
Member

Registered: 11/25/11
Posts: 8918
Loc: Sonoran Desert
I wish you only good things!

What happens in Vegas...
_________________________
Me 57/H 58
M36 S24 S21
Bomb 3/11 Sep 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 Reconciling

"We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same"~Carlos Castenada

Top
#2233817 - 03/28/12 01:21 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: rickb89]
purgatory Offline
Member

Registered: 12/13/11
Posts: 825
Loc: Virginia
I think you and Rick would make a cute couple smile Elvis could do the honors!

Rick is right: you are taking this with as much honor and dignity that anyone could muster.... You have been brutally honest with yourself through this whole process, you can hold your head high knowing that you left it all on the table- you gave it all you have. Hopefully one day, she will look back and realize that she didn't do all she could to really *see* you.

Mnky, you have a wonderful heart.
_________________________
M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12

Top
#2233819 - 03/28/12 01:37 AM Re: Sure was a nice rocking chair.. [Re: purgatory]
Rick1963 Offline
Member

Registered: 08/11/11
Posts: 2549
Loc: Piney Land
Rickb have u decided on a new name yet? Hey I could adjurn the June court dste because I have an emergency trip? Wada ya think? I can say my peeps needs me to carry some old heavy canoe?
_________________________
M 51
W 50
D 17
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 11/12
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden






Top
Page 2 of 9 < 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 >


Moderator:  dbmod, Virginia 

Save Your Marriage! Schedule Online

Schedule a phone consultation with a Divorce Busting® Coach! Call: 800-664-2435 or 303-444-7004