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Monk I know the effed up feeling


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I know ya do bro. Sounds shytty, but I'm glad you are here with me! Lol..


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Monk - I think rage and anger is pretty natural when lawyers are in the mix and the gloves are off. Just get through it to the other side!

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I'm getting there. Not mad...just indifferent and somewhat defensive when it comes to this stuff now. I can honestly say that I have indeed made peace with the end of the M. Just below the surface of all this I am the happiest I have been in twenty years.

I still have tremendous respect for you, other Rick, and the Bug. Y'all have toughed it out for a long time. I could have never done this. Here I am five months in and I'm letting go. Perhaps this is the universe's way of telling me that my M was never meant to last in the first place.


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Originally Posted By: Grmpy_Mnky
Perhaps this is the universe's way of telling me that my M was never meant to last in the first place.

NOPE - just part of your SCRIPT.
The part that you have NO CONTROL over.
You didn't ask for this, did not want it, have no choice, but must accept it.

You just keep on your path and play the cards as they are dealt.
Sorry they are not great cards, so do not bet too much on them.


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That's so true! ^^^^^^

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You didn't ask for this, did not want it, have no choice, but must accept it.

So true, yet I am profoundly grateful that this did happen. I am a better person for it. Just wish the price was not so high - I really love (though I do not really like her much right now)this person despite all of this.


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I love the fact that you can say that.


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M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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I feel the same way about my M Ray.


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Hi folks - been awhile since I posted.

So here we are in full-on Lawyer mode. The Lawyers are spewing venom back and forth and making things sound much worse than they ever were. Even with all the manuevering and witness calling my L tells me she still cannot have the divorce because she still does not have "legal" grounds.

Nevertheless, I am going to agree to the divorce. Not as stated in her petition though. I could draw this out for months or even years I imagine, but why?

Love to hear from the vets that have been to this point and lived to tell the tale.


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