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#2230792 - 03/15/12 09:10 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
sayitaintso Member Registered: 11/04/11 Posts: 829	Originally Posted By: ces67 Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to. Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids. Man I really feel you ^^^^. It is a struggle for me to not place so much energy & worth into the hands of my WAS. Slowly but surely we will get there. Congrats on the job, that's awesome!!!! _________________________ Me- 34 W-33 S15 S10 S6 Married- 11 Together- 18 Bomb- 6-2011 WAW moves out- 8-2011 "Nothing in the Universe can stop you from letting go and starting over at anytime"- Guy Finley
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#2230825 - 03/15/12 10:20 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: sayitaintso]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5221 Loc: Sonoran Desert	Quote: Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to. Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids. Your lips to God's ears! _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2230865 - 03/15/12 11:45 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: labug]
2thepoint Member Registered: 09/30/11 Posts: 1658	Ces - Congratulations on the new job! So when are you going to start practicing yoga? _________________________ Me48 W50 S14 S11 M19 T22 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11 It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation. Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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#2231007 - 03/15/12 09:01 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: 2thepoint]
ces67 Member Registered: 12/23/11 Posts: 916	2 - The class at work is offered on Wednesdays. Also, I found a "beginner's DVD here at the house and put it in to try it last night but couldn't get it to work. Going to try again tonight just to get an idea of it before I make a fool of myself in a class with my co-workers! Labug - God knew it before I said it, he probably just gave a sigh of relief for me to finally realize it! _________________________ Me:43, W:42 S:14, D:10 M:20, T:23 Bomb: July 2010 June '12: Starting to piece back together - early stages.
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#2231009 - 03/15/12 09:07 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
labug Member Registered: 11/24/11 Posts: 5221 Loc: Sonoran Desert	What is the name of the DVD? _________________________ Me 56/H 56 M 34/T 37 S 23 away at college S 20 at home in college Bomb #1 11/09 Bomb #2 3/11 He moved out 3/11
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#2231015 - 03/15/12 09:27 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: labug]
ces67 Member Registered: 12/23/11 Posts: 916	Its called "Yoga: Conditioning for Weight Loss" by Gaiam. My W has a collection of all kinds of stuff she rotates through. Since you asked I actually had to go get it so I'm plugging it in now to try! _________________________ Me:43, W:42 S:14, D:10 M:20, T:23 Bomb: July 2010 June '12: Starting to piece back together - early stages.
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#2231020 - 03/15/12 09:39 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
ces67 Member Registered: 12/23/11 Posts: 916	OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else.... _________________________ Me:43, W:42 S:14, D:10 M:20, T:23 Bomb: July 2010 June '12: Starting to piece back together - early stages.
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#2231024 - 03/15/12 09:58 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
AlwaysTrying Member Registered: 10/26/11 Posts: 243	Originally Posted By: ces67 OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else.... LOL so hard!!!! That's the way I feel about Delilah the radio show host. I'm sure you can find another yoga dvd. _________________________ - All for the kids - Me:34, W:35 M:7, T:13 S6, D3 + my D15 from previous marriage July 2011 "I think I need a separation" W filed D September Currently living apart - she has the house, I rent a room
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#2231026 - 03/15/12 10:00 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: AlwaysTrying]
adinva Member Registered: 09/06/11 Posts: 1915 Loc: VA	Yeah Delilah is annoying! _________________________ Adinva 46 H47 T22 M19 S15 S12 6/15/11 IDLY (S but living together) 12/16/12 H left (1 week after informing family of S) Working on S agreemt ____ Be the change you want to see in the world (Gandhi)
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#2231034 - 03/15/12 10:14 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: adinva]
ces67 Member Registered: 12/23/11 Posts: 916	My son use to LOVE to listen to Delilah at Christmas time. So very thankful he grew out of it! _________________________ Me:43, W:42 S:14, D:10 M:20, T:23 Bomb: July 2010 June '12: Starting to piece back together - early stages.
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