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#2230792 - 03/15/12 01:10 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
sayitaintso Offline
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Originally Posted By: ces67
Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to.

Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids.



Man I really feel you ^^^^. It is a struggle for me to not place so much energy & worth into the hands of my WAS. Slowly but surely we will get there.

Congrats on the job, that's awesome!!!!
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#2230825 - 03/15/12 02:20 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: sayitaintso]
labug Offline
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Quote:
Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to.

Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids.


Your lips to God's ears!
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She could never go back and make some of the details pretty. All she
could do was move forward and make the whole beautiful
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#2230865 - 03/15/12 03:45 PM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: labug]
2thepoint Offline
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Ces - Congratulations on the new job! So when are you going to start practicing yoga?
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#2231007 - 03/16/12 01:01 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: 2thepoint]
ces67 Offline
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Registered: 12/23/11
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2 - The class at work is offered on Wednesdays. Also, I found a "beginner's DVD here at the house and put it in to try it last night but couldn't get it to work. Going to try again tonight just to get an idea of it before I make a fool of myself in a class with my co-workers!

Labug - God knew it before I said it, he probably just gave a sigh of relief for me to finally realize it!
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#2231009 - 03/16/12 01:07 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
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What is the name of the DVD?
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#2231015 - 03/16/12 01:27 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: labug]
ces67 Offline
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Its called "Yoga: Conditioning for Weight Loss" by Gaiam. My W has a collection of all kinds of stuff she rotates through.

Since you asked I actually had to go get it so I'm plugging it in now to try!
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M:22, T:25
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#2231020 - 03/16/12 01:39 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
ces67 Offline
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OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else....
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M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
2 attempts at MC-stopped 09/13
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#2231024 - 03/16/12 01:58 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: ces67]
AlwaysTrying Offline
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Registered: 10/27/11
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Originally Posted By: ces67
OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else....

LOL so hard!!!!

That's the way I feel about Delilah the radio show host. I'm sure you can find another yoga dvd.
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#2231026 - 03/16/12 02:00 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: AlwaysTrying]
adinva Offline
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Registered: 09/06/11
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Yeah Delilah is annoying!
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#2231034 - 03/16/12 02:14 AM Re: Death of a "nice guy" [Re: adinva]
ces67 Offline
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My son use to LOVE to listen to Delilah at Christmas time. So very thankful he grew out of it!
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