A lot of stuff gets tossed around here on the board as fact, and I doubt that the data is their to support those facts.
Like I wonder if there is a statistical difference in the number of divorces that occur in M that remain in the same home vs those that physically separate?
When you live with your S in this sitch, and then you reach this point, they are still there in contact with you on a daily basis, it can get quite confusing. Before, when there were signs of a new M life showing it was completely laced with my intentions - hoping that would lead to a R. Letting that control me was destroying my life, and I have the kids to think about.
Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking.
Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking. [/quote]
But you have to think the stress of dealing with this everyday is dangerous physically and emotionally.
My life is placid compared to some of the other situations here.
La I agree. Want to scratch my eyes out sometimes. Since we have silent dinners I can really hear her nasal dripps pretty clearly. She has been sick more than usual. Maybe I'll get me some ear plugs. Wada ya think?
M 51 W 50 D 17 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 11/12 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Maybe it's a coin toss. In some ways separating takes away the immediate stress but I would think you'll need a plan to reconnect at some point if the goal is still to build a better marriage.
I've been living with my w post bomb for a good while and it's sux but at the same time there are benefits. Each sitch is different though so could certainly understand some who just need to get out of a bad sitch.
Me:45, W:44 S:15, D:12 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 2 attempts at MC-stopped 09/13 Continue to live in same home-separate rooms