A lot of stuff gets tossed around here on the board as fact, and I doubt that the data is their to support those facts.
Like I wonder if there is a statistical difference in the number of divorces that occur in M that remain in the same home vs those that physically separate?
When you live with your S in this sitch, and then you reach this point, they are still there in contact with you on a daily basis, it can get quite confusing. Before, when there were signs of a new M life showing it was completely laced with my intentions - hoping that would lead to a R. Letting that control me was destroying my life, and I have the kids to think about.
Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking.
Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking. [/quote]
But you have to think the stress of dealing with this everyday is dangerous physically and emotionally.
My life is placid compared to some of the other situations here.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
La I agree. Want to scratch my eyes out sometimes. Since we have silent dinners I can really hear her nasal dripps pretty clearly. She has been sick more than usual. Maybe I'll get me some ear plugs. Wada ya think?
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Maybe it's a coin toss. In some ways separating takes away the immediate stress but I would think you'll need a plan to reconnect at some point if the goal is still to build a better marriage.
I've been living with my w post bomb for a good while and it's sux but at the same time there are benefits. Each sitch is different though so could certainly understand some who just need to get out of a bad sitch.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms