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Grmpy_Mnky #2231651 03/19/12 01:55 AM
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I can't believe how quickly the time passes. Seems like just the other day this was all new. Now it is old. I'm always glad to hear from you Labug!

Hope you are having a great weekend!


Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
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Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
WenikiTiki #2231889 03/19/12 11:16 PM
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hey labug -

it's grey and rainy here - but beautiful and i've got ravi shankar jamming on pandora and it suits my mood - mellow, quiet, just okay with being alone, - haven't felt those things in a long time:)

hope you're feeling better? and focusing on enjoying your sons being with you

my yoga teacher told me that whenever a painful thought comes up - open a window in your mind and let it gently waft through and then gently close the window.

i've been doing that whenever i remember to and it really helps.

my motto for the day - use anything and everything that helps, even if it helps only for 2 minutes (grin)


me 46 H 38
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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"

zig #2231910 03/20/12 12:37 AM
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Originally Posted By: zig

my yoga teacher told me that whenever a painful thought comes up - open a window in your mind and let it gently waft through and then gently close the window.


This is nice... thank you for sharing it. smile


Me & H: 44
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Originally Posted By: zig
hey labug -

it's grey and rainy here - but beautiful and i've got ravi shankar jamming on pandora and it suits my mood - mellow, quiet, just okay with being alone, - haven't felt those things in a long time:)

hope you're feeling better? and focusing on enjoying your sons being with you

my yoga teacher told me that whenever a painful thought comes up - open a window in your mind and let it gently waft through and then gently close the window.

i've been doing that whenever i remember to and it really helps.

my motto for the day - use anything and everything that helps, even if it helps only for 2 minutes (grin)


Zig - totally into Ravi here too! Love your yoga teacher's advice!

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sure - hope it helps:)


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rick - i could never listen to the sitar all these years - couldn't stand it and i'm from india to boot. and now, i "discovered" his music and play it while i do my yoga - it's wonderful stuff and so uplifting

tonight i heard a piece that he played with Yehudi Menuhin - there's a whole album, my heart just about melted completely, it was so beautiful and peaceful..


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"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"

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I was in an appt with S19 yesterday and the doc was telling S about mindfulness:

"Just picture a river and your thought as a log flowing past in the river, you see it as it passes and then it's gone"

I need to keep reminding myself of that.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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Great advice! ^^^^^


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Like ^^^


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Generalissimo Francisco Franco is still dead!

In other news...

Lots of work last week, which is good.

On Sat hosted a small b-day party for a friend at my home. It was fun but a little melancholy as this is the first time I've entertained since H left. We were always a team and then enjoyed rehashing as we cleaned up.

But it was still fun and life is different now.

Met a very dear friend for coffee Sunday morning. She moved to a different town and I haven't seen her since last fall. It was so good to catch-up. We have the type friendship in which we can start the conversation after a length of time has passed as if there was only a pause between sentences. We laughed so much!

I passed my copies of 5 Love Languages, Passionate Marriage, and How to Fix You Marriage Without Talking About It on to her. Might be helpful in keeping her M intact. (I didn't foist them on her, we had talked about it beforehand)

Sun evening I joined some other friends for dinner and the season opener of Mad Men. That was fun!

A good GAL weekend! Now I just need to plan some bigger adventures for the future, especially this summer as it heats up here in the desert. Must escape to cooler climes.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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