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Nope! It wasn't ocean shores for this trip but Victoria! Did not make it to the bug museum yesterday.. Did not make it to the aquarium today. And I'll tell you why... Lol!

So after getting off the night shift, went home, packed up, and left! H brought the bags down.. Charged the camera.. Helped me down with the kids.. Glimpse of the old H in action but minus the affection for me. Anyway.. Got to Victoria ok but with 4 kids in tow, naps.. Breakdowns.. Grocery shopping.. We just didn't make it to the bug Zoo. No big deal.

Restless night. Kids tossing and turning. S wakes up about 430 saying he had upset tummy.. Ok.. Kid number 1 with possible GI bug.

Today, we wanted to head out to the aquarium (about 20 mins drive away). First off.. Major windstorm. Heavy rain.. We packed up and headed out. Got lost Several times!! Gf's D gets sick in the car. Kid #2 with possible GI bug. We finally make it to the aquarium and notice water crashing against the rocks.. Unload the kids (in the downpour) only to find a note on the dang door saying closed due to power outage!!

Back in the car! Kids are antsy of course because what was suppose to be a 20 min ride had turned in to 40.. Sigh. Thought we might as well get lunch for kids at mcd's but guess what??? Power outage there as well. In fact.. In the whole little town! So.. We keep driving to find another one. About 5 mins later of the hwy we see out saving grace. A mcd's with a playplace??? Awesome!

Guess what? Seems power outage there as well (because another little town By the water). Keep driving and finally see another one with power (the golden arches were lit) so we take the exit. Hmmmm... This exit only goes in one direction which happens to be opposite of where we want to go!!! But we made it. Fed the kids and went for plan B. Museum. It was great!

On our way back to hotel (about 5 min drive) we see police lights go on and then suddenly.. Notice we are stuck behind an accident that had just occured. No joke. Ugh! I uturned and saved the day.

Back at hotel.. My D has tummy ache. Child #3. And then child #4. Thank goodness for insuite laundry!

I had to tell this whole story to explain the extent of my patience today! I thought to myself.. Is God testing me??? If I can have patience for what could have turned into a miserable day had I let it, ended up being quite nice.. Then maybe I have the patience to figure out my M. Lol!!! Ok.. It's a stretch!

I have spent the last 2 nights talking to my gf about life.. Love. Marriage.. It's been really nice. She's supportive and it's really great to have.

Tomorrow.. Miniature world.. And really.. Bug museum. That is.. Unless my D freaks out...


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WOW It's been so long since I've had little kids, so brought back some memories. They grow up so fast, remember that! You were really impressive with your handling of sit. I'm sure gf helped. I need to get one of those. Hope rest of trip better, stupid weather, still bad down here. Threat of more stupid snow, I HAVE to get get grocery now! Have some fun, you deserve it.

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What a day! That memory of this day will stay with you and your kids for a very long time and the good part is you're already laughing about it!

It may not have been your plans but it was certainly an adventure! Have fun today and keep making those memories!


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Wow Chris. What a story! You certainly handled that well. You're kids are pretty lucky to have you. Have fun today!

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You just reminded me of road trip from hell. Leaving family cabin at Tahoe after death in family. I'm packing suitcase on floor. Oldest son tries to run to bathroom from top bunk. Vomits into open suitcase. The big suitcase with all our clothes in it. (2 boys, 2 adults).

I zip it shut we hit the road trying to make it back to ABQ. 2 hours down the road we pull into hotel casino and spent the next 2 days all being sick. I had to buy shorts and a shirt to go do the laundry. Oh the memories!

I hope the adventure gets better! Eek! I saw a bug!


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BF - You survived, and this will be a trip your kids will never forget!

Miniature World - I'm intrigued. LOL


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We made it to miniature world and the bug museum and had an all around great day. That is.. Until bedtime. They drove me bonkers!!! In fact I was head butted twice by D2... Accidentally but.. It hurt!! My patience was running thin.

I had planned on putting them to bed and then going for a little walk after they fell asleep but.. I finally admitted defeat and put on my pjs. D sees them and says.. Oooohhhhhhhhhh I like you clothes.. And then she said, nice jammies mommy! At which point her and S started clapping. It was so ridiculous that I had to laugh! How do you stay made at cute lil monkeys??

H txted in the evening saying "hope everyone is ok and safe". I answered back about 2 hrs later.. Zombies are invading Victoria! Send help quick! He answered.. What? Wow. There goes that joke. Lol!

We've been txt'ing back and forth about the day and the kids. H asked about my new sked because he wants to go on little road trip w/ friend before they leave for NZ. Finally I said I hated to ask but were we still going to retrouvaille? H answered he planned on it and had actually taken a day off so he wouldn't be tired for the first evening. Can you say.. Shocked??? Surprised he remembered!! But.. No mind reading.

We go home tomorrow. Am looking forward to the mundane routine of home. I have to say.. First trip w/ kids w/out H and I survived! Did not have sad moments. Just enjoyed seeing my kids have fun.

I'm in such a different space from where i was a few months ago. I can't even fathom how much despair I felt. There are moments of sadness (only occasionally) but for the most part.. I'm ok. I feel different. More me if that makes any sense.

If there is anyone new reading my sitch.. In the beginning I was really a mess (just check out my earlier threads) but it's true what everyone says... Time is a gift we've been given. Without it I may still be stuck in the same M.. Unhappy.. Dead.. Just existing.. DB helped me find myself. And the people on the board taught me how to accept myself and know that I am worthy of great love.. And a great M.

I truly don't know what the future holds. Some days I think about a future with H.. And some days I can see a future without him. One day at a time. See where this journey leads. I'm taking the scenic route.


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And you are a very funny person!

Yes, I can barely believe that I was lying around in bed most of the time, crying off and on throughout the day.

But I guess we had to be there to get here.

Love ya, bf!


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BF,

Glad you had a good trip! I agree, how can you stay mad at you little once when their hearts are so pure and full of love. When I'm not happy with something, my S comes and says things like "You're so beautiful", "You're the best mommy in the whole wide world", or "Where's that smile?". Kids just make your hearts melt.

And good news on your H still wanting to go to Retrouvaille!


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