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Great posts Rick. I'm honored to have met u on here and to have you as a friend.

You are a great man!!!


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Married- 11 Together- 18
Bomb- 6-2011
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^^^what he said.

I have noticed you posts over the past week seem much more centered Rick. I think you are on to something here.


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Almost forgot...242!!!!!!!!!! I'm impressed.


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Originally Posted By: labug
A lot of stuff gets tossed around here on the board as fact, and I doubt that the data is their to support those facts.

Like I wonder if there is a statistical difference in the number of divorces that occur in M that remain in the same home vs those that physically separate?

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When you live with your S in this sitch, and then you reach this point, they are still there in contact with you on a daily basis, it can get quite confusing. Before, when there were signs of a new M life showing it was completely laced with my intentions - hoping that would lead to a R. Letting that control me was destroying my life, and I have the kids to think about.





Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking.

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Thansk SAIS, Monkster...maybe some day we will all be talking about how great EVERYTHING is!

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Not sure, but I would think there's more D amongst those that are physically separated. I'm thinking it must have been pretty bad to separate in the first place. But then my sitch goes against that maybe. Hell, I really don't know, that's why I'm asking. [/quote]

But you have to think the stress of dealing with this everyday is dangerous physically and emotionally.

My life is placid compared to some of the other situations here.


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^^here, here


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La I agree. Want to scratch my eyes out sometimes. Since we have silent dinners I can really hear her nasal dripps pretty clearly. She has been sick more than usual. Maybe I'll get me some ear plugs. Wada ya think?


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Together 26 yrs
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W Filed for D 7/21/11
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There's merit in that Bugsy. I asked because it sukks so bad having the walk away in such close proximity at home. Maybe separation is good to completely and clearly examine the R.

Who knows? Who would even want to count the statistics?

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Maybe it's a coin toss. In some ways separating takes away the immediate stress but I would think you'll need a plan to reconnect at some point if the goal is still to build a better marriage.

I've been living with my w post bomb for a good while and it's sux but at the same time there are benefits. Each sitch is different though so could certainly understand some who just need to get out of a bad sitch.


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M:22, T:25
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