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#2230156 - 03/13/12 02:45 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: ClingingToHope]
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As far as the point about all the posts being about XW. I don't think that's true, but there's no reason to argue. They have been lately because I went through a shock. When things are going well I drift away from the boards. When I'm processing something I come back here to record it for some future date.
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#2230238 - 03/13/12 06:54 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: ClingingToHope]
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Originally Posted By: ClingingToHope
Again, I've been out on exactly -- I counted it up -- 11 dates in three years. And you guys want me to slow down? I might as well move to Alaska and hunt elk.


Hey, SDA Lady's sister lives in Alaska. She could set you up with a job at the local McDonald's ...no Quarter Elk burgers with cheese, I don't think so anyway.
Hey, it's good to think about what you'd like in a partner but it's also good to realize that you can be alone and be OK. Slow and steady, less thought about filling the void with another and more thought to being you and loving it. Hang in there, my man!
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#2230383 - 03/14/12 04:05 AM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: whatisis]
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Had a fun night. Two teams from my area were playing in my old college town for a chance at the state tournament. So a coworker and I went down. One lousy game. One great game and it was like a YMCA basketball reunion. I ran into at least 50 guys I've played with or against over the past 30 years.

That should make me feel old. Instead, I feel pretty young.
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#2230431 - 03/14/12 01:42 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: ClingingToHope]
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Sounds like a great time, young fella lol!
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#2231057 - 03/16/12 04:03 AM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: whatisis]
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IEP meeting tomorrow morning with XW. I think things are going pretty well with D9. She may always be a square peg that won't fit in a round hole. My concerns are for future years. She's getting all A's and B's so this year has gone well after a very rough start.

I bought a big wiffle ball bat and D9 keeps asking to bat. This one is thick so it's easy to hit with. She's always been very athletic, but she gets distracted easily and she gives up if she doesn't have instant success. So this is just for fun. The weather has been just beautiful the last two days and we've already gone bike riding, visited the beach. I'm really looking forward to summer.

Emailed the running race company today, hopefully finding out whether or not I'll be working March 23-24. If we're in, I'm going to have a very good year financially. If not, well, it'll be a bit of a struggle.

It [censored] having to go season by season, but that's the hand I've been dealt.

Still struggling with worry. Haven't been able to slow down my brain. Trying to sing along in the car to focus myself.
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#2231059 - 03/16/12 04:13 AM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: ClingingToHope]
antlers Offline
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Registered: 03/28/09
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It's great that things are going good with your daughter and you. That's a blessing. You must be doing something right when it comes to her. Keep it up.
Continue to detach from your XW.
It's really a strength to value and respect ourselves enough.....to let go of people who don't value or respect us.
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#2231063 - 03/16/12 04:19 AM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: antlers]
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CTH,

WTF would you consider doing bankruptcy without including the bad house debt????

That's kind of insane, and I'm not at all sure it is legal/possible.

In any case, you should absolutely, under ZERO conditions, sacrifice your future financial stability for XW. Do not.
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#2231196 - 03/16/12 04:12 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: oldtimer]
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Loc: Illinois, United States
Oldtimer, once I found out I could include the house it made the bankruptcy decision easy.

I didn't want to be in a situation where I got myself back on my feet, some money in the bank only to have the mortgage holders come after me if XW loses the house in foreclosure.

That can happen. The mortgage holders can go after the people who lost the house to make up for their loss. I've only seen a couple of banks do that here and normally only against people with assets.

So I don't think it would be likely they'd come after me, but I wanted to protect myself in case they did.

It doesn't affect XW in any way. If she can make the payments and stay fine. If not and she loses it then I'm protected. I think this also will end the collection calls to me over this debt.

My long-term worry there is that if XW loses the house she may move to a different school district. But I have no control over that and am trying to let those thoughts go.

IEP meeting went well. I listened to a Christian station on the way up and the chorus of one song stuck with me.

"You are more than the decisions that you made."
"You are more than the sum of the past mistakes you made."
"You are more than the trouble you create."
"You've been remade."

So I hummed that to myself during the meeting.
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#2231200 - 03/16/12 04:22 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: ClingingToHope]
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Registered: 12/12/07
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Loc: GA
So glad to hear D9 is doing so much better!!!! That's awesome!
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PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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#2231404 - 03/17/12 12:09 PM Re: Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time [Re: mishka422]
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Registered: 05/18/09
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I still don't get how you are going to have a great year financially despite having to sell your blood, wait for an insurance settlement and file for bankruptcy. It does not add up.

A country that allows this to happen is foreign to me. One can understand why the country is in the situation it is with foreclosures around every corner. And everyone wants a "bailout" like it is an earned right.

DOES NOT COMPUTE!

I have had years of feast and years of famine but I have worked through them. No matter what you say - there are ways.

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