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Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to.

Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids.



Man I really feel you ^^^^. It is a struggle for me to not place so much energy & worth into the hands of my WAS. Slowly but surely we will get there.

Congrats on the job, that's awesome!!!!


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Looking back, I realize how often I spend time & energy looking at how my W acts and deals with things and how I let that effect me. I'm working on the conscious effort to step away from that and look at how I am acting, responding and managing my life. It hurts deeply to see my W live a life that has little to no room for me but I can't control that. And its no reason for me to stop living the way I want to.

Along with that "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I can see where I've put the blame on all sorts of things for not living the life I want. I'm changing that for myself and to pass on a better example for my kids.


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Ces - Congratulations on the new job! So when are you going to start practicing yoga?


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2 - The class at work is offered on Wednesdays. Also, I found a "beginner's DVD here at the house and put it in to try it last night but couldn't get it to work. Going to try again tonight just to get an idea of it before I make a fool of myself in a class with my co-workers!

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What is the name of the DVD?


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Its called "Yoga: Conditioning for Weight Loss" by Gaiam. My W has a collection of all kinds of stuff she rotates through.

Since you asked I actually had to go get it so I'm plugging it in now to try!


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OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else....


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OK, I started it and there is no way I can listen to that lady talk to me for 30 minutes or whatever long that thing is. I'll have to try something else....

LOL so hard!!!!

That's the way I feel about Delilah the radio show host. I'm sure you can find another yoga dvd.


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Yeah Delilah is annoying!


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My son use to LOVE to listen to Delilah at Christmas time. So very thankful he grew out of it!


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