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labug #2230822 03/15/12 02:14 PM
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Thank you!! I have such a wonderful loving support system in place, both here on DB and in my RL (my parents). I am finally allowing others to support me and not pretending everything is ok.


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Thank you for your post labug, that one really rang true with me today. You have came so far and I know everyone is proud of you. Although not the one year mark for me it's a trigger day here as well so I'll be shedding some tears with you. Hopefully it's as beautiful day where you are as it is in N.C. today, enjoy the day! :-)


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!
Broken74 #2230832 03/15/12 02:43 PM
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The perfectionist, controller is freaking that I used the wrong spelling of rode.

wow, better now.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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Thanks, broken.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2230887 03/15/12 04:46 PM
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labug - I am so happy for you. You should be proud of yourself (I am sure you are).

Your post is the very essence of what true DBing is and the results it may bring.

Even though I have not grown as much personally as you, I can see the possibilities thru you, so thank you for being a source of inspiration for me. smile


Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D






keep_going #2230889 03/15/12 04:55 PM
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(((Bugsy))) that is one awesome post. Great that you can see the changes that you have made. Painful but worth it. I don't know if you know but you are super bright.


M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden





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Thanks LaBug!

I wrote the part you wrote about acceptance on a card to tuck into my wallet.

And don't forget my theme song: Keep on Smilin'

Well, you say you've got the blues
You've got holes in both your shoes yeah
You're feeling alone and confused
You got to keep on smilin'
Just keep on smilin'


Yeah you're 'bout to go insane
'Cause your woman's playin' games
And she says that you're to blame
Just keep on smilin'


Keep on smilin' thru the rain
Laughin' at the pain
Just flowin' with the changes
Till the sun comes out again


I only put in enough to get you singing!

You are doing great!

Wendy


Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
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Whoops, posted on your last thread by accident:

Originally Posted By: mimivac
Originally Posted By: labug
I did have one weird moment. There were a lot of people there, lots of young families and couples and I thought "Wonder who of these is going to have the bomb dropped on them this week?"

I quickly dropped that junk mail in the trash and moved on.


You know it's funny you say that. Once you go through something you tend to wonder about/notice whether other people are going through it, too. When I was first diagnosed, I would be at the metro, look at all the people and think, "I wonder how many of these people have had cancer? I wonder how many will?" It's distressing, but also makes you feel less alone to think that others have experienced the same things. Kind of like this board! smile

Mimi


M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids.
Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12
Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12
Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12
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(((La Bug))) There aren't enough words to tell you how strong I think you are. You've been working to change yourself (and save your M) for a year. Not many people (outside of us here) can say they have the patience or the tenacity that takes.

So today, I'm saluting you. Thank you for your advice, and for just being here!


Me:37
H:GONE

Happy and loving life.
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Thanks all for the kinds thoughts.

it was a melancholy kind of day but I just keep going forward, trying not to get mired in the muck of a broken relationship.

Going to pick up S22 at school tomorrow for spring break.

We're going skydiving in a wind tunnel on Monday. Should be fun.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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