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#2230822 - 03/15/12 10:14 AM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: labug]
Autumn Leaves Offline
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Registered: 11/01/11
Posts: 568
Loc: Pennsylvania
Thank you!! I have such a wonderful loving support system in place, both here on DB and in my RL (my parents). I am finally allowing others to support me and not pretending everything is ok.
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-Autumn


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#2230831 - 03/15/12 10:37 AM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: Autumn Leaves]
Broken74 Offline
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Registered: 01/19/12
Posts: 288
Thank you for your post labug, that one really rang true with me today. You have came so far and I know everyone is proud of you. Although not the one year mark for me it's a trigger day here as well so I'll be shedding some tears with you. Hopefully it's as beautiful day where you are as it is in N.C. today, enjoy the day! :-)
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me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!

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#2230832 - 03/15/12 10:43 AM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: Broken74]
labug Offline
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Registered: 11/24/11
Posts: 7820
Loc: Sonoran Desert
The perfectionist, controller is freaking that I used the wrong spelling of rode.

wow, better now.
_________________________
Me 56/H 57
M 35 S 24 S 21
Bomb 3/11 He moved out 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 He's home now

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate but, it is fear. Gandhi


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#2230833 - 03/15/12 10:43 AM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: labug]
labug Offline
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Registered: 11/24/11
Posts: 7820
Loc: Sonoran Desert
Thanks, broken.
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Me 56/H 57
M 35 S 24 S 21
Bomb 3/11 He moved out 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 He's home now

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate but, it is fear. Gandhi


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#2230887 - 03/15/12 12:46 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: labug]
keep_going Offline
Member

Registered: 06/14/11
Posts: 830
labug - I am so happy for you. You should be proud of yourself (I am sure you are).

Your post is the very essence of what true DBing is and the results it may bring.

Even though I have not grown as much personally as you, I can see the possibilities thru you, so thank you for being a source of inspiration for me. smile
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Me & H: 43
D6
D5
S2.5
Together: 21 years, M: 16 years
EA: 11/13/10
ILYBNILWY & Separation - 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12




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#2230889 - 03/15/12 12:55 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: keep_going]
Rick1963 Offline
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Registered: 08/11/11
Posts: 2446
Loc: Piney Land
(((Bugsy))) that is one awesome post. Great that you can see the changes that you have made. Painful but worth it. I don't know if you know but you are super bright.
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M 51
W 50
D 17
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 11/12
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden






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#2230900 - 03/15/12 01:45 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: Rick1963]
WenikiTiki Offline
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Registered: 11/10/11
Posts: 1063
Loc: Hawaii
Thanks LaBug!

I wrote the part you wrote about acceptance on a card to tuck into my wallet.

And don't forget my theme song: Keep on Smilin'

Well, you say you've got the blues
You've got holes in both your shoes yeah
You're feeling alone and confused
You got to keep on smilin'
Just keep on smilin'


Yeah you're 'bout to go insane
'Cause your woman's playin' games
And she says that you're to blame
Just keep on smilin'


Keep on smilin' thru the rain
Laughin' at the pain
Just flowin' with the changes
Till the sun comes out again


I only put in enough to get you singing!

You are doing great!

Wendy
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Me 54 XH 55 Sons age 29 & 24 M:32 T:33
D final 9/12
Sold the house, Progress is being made!

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#2230923 - 03/15/12 02:27 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: kolja]
mimivac Offline
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Registered: 01/30/12
Posts: 158
Loc: Washington DC
Whoops, posted on your last thread by accident:

Originally Posted By: mimivac
Originally Posted By: labug
I did have one weird moment. There were a lot of people there, lots of young families and couples and I thought "Wonder who of these is going to have the bomb dropped on them this week?"

I quickly dropped that junk mail in the trash and moved on.


You know it's funny you say that. Once you go through something you tend to wonder about/notice whether other people are going through it, too. When I was first diagnosed, I would be at the metro, look at all the people and think, "I wonder how many of these people have had cancer? I wonder how many will?" It's distressing, but also makes you feel less alone to think that others have experienced the same things. Kind of like this board! smile

Mimi
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M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids.
Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12
Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12
Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12

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#2230931 - 03/15/12 02:46 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: mimivac]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
(((La Bug))) There aren't enough words to tell you how strong I think you are. You've been working to change yourself (and save your M) for a year. Not many people (outside of us here) can say they have the patience or the tenacity that takes.

So today, I'm saluting you. Thank you for your advice, and for just being here!
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Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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#2231003 - 03/15/12 08:50 PM Re: Dagnabit! [Re: RoRoinMD]
labug Offline
Member

Registered: 11/24/11
Posts: 7820
Loc: Sonoran Desert
Thanks all for the kinds thoughts.

it was a melancholy kind of day but I just keep going forward, trying not to get mired in the muck of a broken relationship.

Going to pick up S22 at school tomorrow for spring break.

We're going skydiving in a wind tunnel on Monday. Should be fun.
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Me 56/H 57
M 35 S 24 S 21
Bomb 3/11 He moved out 3/11
Piecing 9/13 12/13 He's home now

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate but, it is fear. Gandhi


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