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2, can't add any advice beyond what is here but I can offer my support. Those expectations of ours are seeded deep within us and it's hard to let them go.

I know you can stand strong. I know you can hold your head high and live the life you want. It's so very hard to see for ourselves sometimes because we are so engrained in our own sitch's. Sometimes we just need others to remind us of what we are capable of.

So this is my reminder to you, "I will fight for you. You need only be still.". Exodus 14:14

Hope you have some fun GAL this weekend,


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S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
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Great advice guys really. But I gonna sum it up. 2tp I will always be here for u but u are still doing the same things that got u here. You are more aware of your behaviors but you still practice them.

Let me see if I remember:
You know all the answers
You are smarter
You know best
they should do it your way
You must be in control

Did I leave anything out?


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D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden





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I haven't felt like posting much lately but wanted to thank everyone who recently posted on my thread. I've read and considered each and every post and will respond in the next day or so.

Meanwhile..... a bag of kitchen trash has been sitting next to the garbage can in the kitchen for the past two days. I've walked by it a half dozen times and have not touched it! smile


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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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I need to start a new thread and am considering doing so in a forum other than Newcomers. Having been at this for 7 months now, I'm thinking that Newcomers is no longer the best place for me to post. Better to give the newbies the attention they need and get from the high traffic Newcomers forum.

Any suggestions based upon my sitch, where I should start my new thread?


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M22 T25
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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I don't know that 7 months means you're not a newbie. Just thinking that maybe the life span of our sitches go on for a long time so maybe 7 mos is not that long. And what about the new readers who will benefit from reading your sitch? Now might be the time when your insights and posts are most valuable?

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I agree with Rick. Stay here, we need you!

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Well, I spent a lot of time initially in Newcomers, MLC, and WAS, until I realized WAS was for the one leaving, not the LBS. MLC didn't feel right to me. There's a lot of focus on the S in those sitches, and my sitch just didn't seem to fit. So I'm camped out in Newcomers until (when or if) I make it to piecing or D. Where were you thinking of going?


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M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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if they create a forum called oldies.. then i say.. i'm coming with you!


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I think we should all move to Sex Starved Marriage, except for some notable exceptions.

You know who you are! And we are jealous! smile


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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LOL^^^^^^^


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S15 S10 S6
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Bomb- 6-2011
WAW moves out- 8-2011

"Nothing in the Universe can stop you from letting go and starting over at anytime"- Guy Finley
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