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Just ran Bloomsday (Spokane's - my home town - 12k) in 1:15. That's unofficial - based on the iPhone gps, but it's also 11:40 faster than last year's iPhone time. I'll take it.


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Nice run, I've heard that is a HUGE race. That's a pretty huge jump from your time last year -- like almost 15% faster. Keep it up for Seattle!


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Around 50,000 people. My official time was 1:14:45, and in the front half of all tr categories they used to break it down. Not the pace I wanted to be able to move up a start group but tough to argue with such a big jump, a PR, and all that.

Also, I rode the Harley over here so there's that, too.


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Well, tonight for the first time in just over three weeks I heard from the wife. Apparently she's in town, to visit family and get papers notarized in-state.

She asked for the address my house in Fallon (it's not community property, and in the papers it's mine, but the address was left blank, so I conclude it's just a crossing the i's and dotting the t's sort of thing).

She also asked if she could drop by tomorrow afternoon to visit her cats, and if I would leave the back slider open. It's a quiet area out in the woods so I'm not uncomfortable with that, and I also figure that if she wanted to steal stuff or do damage she would have done so in the two months or so between announcing her decision and actually packing up/moving away, so despite the circumstances I trust her enough not to think anything bad will happen.

Coincidentally enough, with the few days home between trips, I've done some tidying up. Cleaning stove top, linoleum floors, bathrooms, etc. So when she visits, she's not going to see a squalid bachelor pad, but a house that's pretty well kept together - I'm kind of happy with that from an "as if" perspective and showing that I'm going to get by OK despite her decision...


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" It's a quiet area out in the woods so I'm not uncomfortable with that, and I also figure that if she wanted to steal stuff or do damage she would have done so in the two months or so between announcing her decision and actually packing up/moving away, so despite the circumstances I trust her enough not to think anything bad will happen."


Hmmm, that's an odd thing for you to post. Did you at one time ever think that your W would do damage or steal any of your stuff?

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"Coincidentally enough, with the few days home between trips, I've done some tidying up. Cleaning stove top, linoleum floors, bathrooms, etc. So when she visits, she's not going to see a squalid bachelor pad, but a house that's pretty well kept together - I'm kind of happy with that from an "as if" perspective and showing that I'm going to get by OK despite her decision..."


Good for you Kolja! Great way to show that you are going to be ok in the end.

BTW, I've been impressed with your running adventures. You must be in great shape to be able to do all that running and the improvements in your times, etc. Keep it going!


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I never worried about her, but as things were getting to their darkest I had one friend suggest having locks changed and stipulating she can't be here unless I am, and even this past weekend my mom expressed concern that she kept her keys - so I sort of figured given our circumstances other folks might also think I was taking a chance letting her here on her own


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Originally Posted By: 2thepoint
BTW, I've been impressed with your running adventures. You must be in great shape to be able to do all that running and the improvements in your times, etc. Keep it going!


Strangely, I haven't really lost that much weight - but then I've still been in the weightroom, so..... wink


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Arrived in Hawai'i yesterday. Turns out its pretty awesome!


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Which island(s)? This is a great time to be there also because doesn't have the summer vacation crush.


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Oahu. I'm actually working on Fors Island, a few hundred yards away from the Arizona.


Me: 36
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"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12
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