So I think he may have seen my list of questions for the atty, but I'm not sure. He just left to go to a friends house. I am thankful for the quiet. The kids left for the gym, and I feel terrible that they never want to be here anymore but I don't blame them.
He sent me a text saying "you had plans, the kids aren't home so I am not going to sit home and feel sorry for myself, I am going to E's house. I was not being spiteful, I made these plans earlier"
I think it was because he saw my questions but I have no proof.
There is nothing I can do about it now, I just need to keep moving and form my plan.
I truly hate this!!
And Starsky, I should have known it was SCRIPT. I don't know why I don't know this by now for crying out loud.
On a positive note, I just found a new home church and got a very nice welcoming message today from an elder. I am very excited to get to know them better and go again this Sunday.
I guess, if he saw your list of questions, he might start to understand that his same ol' approach isn't working!!!
How great to find a new home church!!!
I miss church. For years we were members at an Assemblies of God, Pentecostal Church. Way too charismatic for my taste. Then, we went to a mega non-denominational church, but only mostly on holidays. It's great, but almost too big. And, now, since the kids go to a Lutheran school, I've been most comfortable in a Lutheran church. It's just hard to get there!!!
I was going to tell you to hug your boys tight... But I know how they are!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Great suggestion chatterbug. I thought I could keep things in my locked office but it seems that he ransacked my desk and checked my computer while I was healing at my fathers last week.
Sometimes I just shake my head wondering who this person is and how I ended up here.
Having some trouble sleeping so I got a jump on the day this morning. I am very thankful to have so much support both here and in my RL. It really does help.
I was having a tough time last night and received texts from a few dear friends just to say "thinking of you tomorrow, good luck". It really does help.
I went to see the atty this morning and I really feel comfortable with her. We went through everything and she had a better feel for my sitch and what is likely. I feel like I have the knowledge that I needed and can use it as I figure out my next steps.
She advised me not to leave the marital home and also that I could not force him to leave either. I asked him to leave last week and he refused.
I feel relieved to have that first consult behind me.
I have this in my phone and it pops up as a reminder to me daily:
"By owning my decisions, honoring my boundaries and my authentic self and engaging a healthy and loving support system, I live the passionate, joyful life I deserve"
