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#2223231 - 02/18/12 05:35 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: barely floating]
nhmom Offline
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Registered: 12/20/11
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BF, my son's not a big fan of jello either. Went back to the doctors 2 days later. Turns out S4 does have a hairline fracture in his arm and his elbow was slightly dislocated. He now has his very first cast (yellow with blue stripes), but he's taking it very well.

I'd like to think that things are slowly getting better between H and I, that maybe we are heading in the right direction. We still have a long way to go, but I've been seeing many little improvements and many more glimpses of my "old" H. It seems as though he maybe slowly coming out of "it"? I've been seeing a more affection from him (even if in smallest forms), we've been intimate, teasing each other, and his overall appearance and actions are more on the positive side.

He still doesn't wear his wedding ring, doesn't say ILY, hasn't mentioned where things are between us, what he wants or thinks.

Yesterday was a pretty important day for me. I had my oath ceremony and became a citizen! H came, as did MIL, S4, and a friend. It must have been awkward for H to sit with MIL and my friend. She knows about our sitch, and this was the first time he's seen her since the bomb.

At the end of the ceremony we went through a congratulatory line where family could join us. H and S4 came up and we all went together. We shook hands with the governor and the judge, and other representatives from congressional offices and other organizations. Too bad nobody remembered to grab the camera. Doh! We could have gotten a picture of us as a family with the governor.

After the ceremony H left and went back to work. MIL, my friend and S went out for an early lunch. H texted in the middle of the day and asked what we were doing for dinner. I gave him a couple of options and said we could go out as well. As always, he didn't make a decision and said he didn't care. I was hoping he'd want to go out and celebrate my new citizenship, but didn't say anything. When he got home, he said he felt like steak, so we ended up going out and had a good time.

H slept on the couch again for the past 2 nights, which irritated me quite a bit. I ended up asking why, and he said it was because of his back and that the bed hurts his back.

Now he's off to a weekend away at a casino. He said he was going with a friend from soccer and his friends. I wish he'd stay with us, but I understand that he wants to go and have fun, and he hasn't really taken vacation or done anything fun in a year. S4 and I were sitting on the couch when he was leaving and after hugging and kissing S4 good bye, he actually leaned in and gave me a kiss as well. No ILY, but a kiss. I'll take it.
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#2223252 - 02/18/12 07:58 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: nhmom]
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Congratulations, NH! What a proud day for you and us! I proudly welcome you to being a citizen of the US of A.
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#2223301 - 02/18/12 11:34 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: labug]
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Registered: 12/13/11
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Yeah!!!! Congrats!!! So happy for you smile

What crazy 'American' thing will you do this weekend? Lol! Maybe watch all the Rocky movies? Some people would claim you're 'not a real American' until you have.

Try (easier said than done) to not think about what je's doing at the casino. Look at S4, in his cool cast, and do something out of the ordinary- just for the 2 of you... Ice cream sundaes, go 'camping' in the living room complete with roasting marshmallows over a construction paper fire....enjoy yourselves!

Again, congratulations on citizenship!!
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#2223386 - 02/19/12 12:52 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: purgatory]
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Thanks LA and Purg! It is pretty exciting! I almost feel like a new person.

Purg, I'm doing ok not thinking about what H is doing at the casino. Though I'm a little disappointed that he didn't even call or text to say that he got there ok, or to say good night to S4.

I love your ideas of doing something out of the ordinary! We have no plans today, so we'll have to think of something to fill it with cool stuff.
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#2223614 - 02/20/12 07:18 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: nhmom]
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NHMomma - our country just get better with you as a citizen. Congratulations!

Wishing you well from next door in MA.

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#2223618 - 02/20/12 07:30 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: rickb89]
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Congrats NH MOM!!!
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#2223622 - 02/20/12 07:39 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: sayitaintso]
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How was your weekend?? Hope you found a way to do something fun with S4!
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ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
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#2223849 - 02/21/12 02:21 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: purgatory]
nhmom Offline
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Thanks guys! I feel very honored to be a new citizen and feel like I have many obligations and responsibilities to fulfill! smile

My weekend was good. We didn't do anything spectacular. I did make mickey mouse shaped chocolate chip pancakes one morning. S4 appreciate that. We did have ice cream before lunch!!! (thanks Purg...lol) Went to a park, went out to dinner with a friend, watched movies, and dropped S4 at MIL's so that I could go the mall for a couple of hours.

H came back from his casino weekend last night. He did end up calling to check in on Sunday just to say hi. It was a a very brief call, but he called nonetheless. I didn't know what time he was planning to come home yesterday and was starting to get a little irritated that he wouldn't at least text (I know, drop the expectations!!). He did end up texting to say that they were still there and he didn't know what time he'd be home as some people wanted to gamble some more. He sounded irritated that he had to wait for them.

He then texted me when they were about to leave, and called when he was almost home. S4 and I were grocery shopping when he called and he asked what we were having for dinner. I told him fish tacos, and he said that I had read his mind. It seems as though at least 4 out of his 5 FB posts were about food (what I was making for dinner and that he liked it). Hmmm, I guess there is some truth to the saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach?

H was already home when S4 and I got home from grocery shopping. He picked up S4 and came over and hugged me! Ha! He missed me (thought he didn't say it)!!

The rest of the night was pleasant. We watched TV (though he was on his iPad for the most part) and I was glad for some funny shows...at least I could laugh and didn't have to act "as if".

A noticeable change for him: between the shows he asked whether WE should move to the bedroom and watch TV there. Usually, he would tell me that HE was going to bed. He was tired from his trip and really just wanted to fall asleep, but I couldn't overlook the fact that he asked me to go the bedroom, too!
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#2223931 - 02/21/12 07:07 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: nhmom]
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Maybe he's relearning to appreciate this fine young american W he has.

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#2223961 - 02/21/12 08:33 PM Re: treading water continues... [Re: rickb89]
nhmom Offline
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Originally Posted By: rickb89
Maybe he's relearning to appreciate this fine young american W he has.


Ha! Wouldn't that be something! smile
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