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So this morning I emailed the W asking her if she wanted to get together with me a couple mutual friends this Wed. for dinner.
W: No, but thanks. Have fun.
Hmmm. Not a big deal I know, escpecailly when compared to the intensity of several of the sitches around here. I think I am going to go ahead and ask her to sign the D papers this week and file. I miss her a bit less every day. I still love here and would love for things to work out, but it is no longer a "need."
Just returned from a visit to the house to grab more of my stuff. Wife is not there on Mondays but today she was. I was very polite to her and apologized for not giving her notice of my visit. A couple minutes in, out of the blue she goes on the attack. What the Eff?!! I kept my cool as she proceeded to blame me for every bad thing in her life over the past decade. Told her “I’m sorry you feel that way.” She kept on going with some very hurtful stuff. Can she sense that I’m ready for this to be over?
Again I told her that I am grateful for the time we had and I wish thing could have turned out differently. I told her that life is good and I never want to go back to the unhealthy relationship we had. Then she gets extra nasty – it’s my entire fault. She can’t believe she fell for me years ago. Again sorry you feel that way. The whole time she is doing this, she has her arms crossed and is looking at the floor. I tell her I am sorry she is in such a bad place right now. She looses her [censored] and screams at me that she is happy. Me: sorry, you don’t look happy. She gets quite so I approach her to tell her something and she recoils in terror and disgust. I immediately back away and leave.
I am not a bad person. I am smart and funny and most people that meet me like me. I refuse to believe that I am the cause of her issues.
45 min drive home – have not cried like this since the bomb..
If you are done and it is for you then I am here to support the next steps. If it's not for you then I am here to call you on it. If you change your mind tomorrow then I am still here to support the next steps. So basically we're all here for you no matter what you decide.
Loc: Little Egg NJ
That was me two months ago. I was sooooo done. Had it, missed being hugged and touched...... Loved. But I got back to dbing even if my sitch looks more hopeless than most. My W seems so at peace with her decision to D me. And we have yet to set foot in court after almost a year. Talk about limbo? We should have been divorced by now. She was gone last July. But all kinds of stuff happened none of my doing that delayed it. Still in denial. When I'm not I get angry and frustrated. Sad too. So it is a process and it is Ok to feel that you are done. You may very well be or after a few days change your mind. We will be here for you either way. But if you still have an inch of belief to reconcile than maybe you are not done yet. So like Bugsy said, wait.
M 50 W 49 D 16 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 11/12 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12