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How come she gets bugsy and i get banana bread? :P lol!
What I've really learned through this DB process is recognizing what I don't want as well. Do you feel that way? I recognize how I'm a fixer so I've made a concious effort to step back. And I really see it when people are trying to tell me what to do. So I'm learning to set boundaries with friends as well. I had to talk to bff and luckily she got the hint.
Whatever path you take.. We'll support you. It's a different story when it's suddenly your own M you're fighting for!
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
I have the same problem with my friends and family. ZZI've said too much, they want me to just divorce the bum. My one friend has been trying to be on my DBing side. But she has decided a year is too long.
Now she just wants me to bail and be happy. I'm not sure it will make me happy. I'm also not sure I'm going to have a choice.
Bt Labug, I say do what feels fight to you!
Me 54 XH 55 Sons age 29 & 24 M:32 T:33 D final 9/12 Sold the house, Progress is being made!
What I've really learned through this DB process is recognizing what I don't want as well. Do you feel that way?
This is one of the things that happens throughout the DB process.
Truthfully, you really can't know what you want, if you don't know what you DONT want.
Something that many of us find with hindsight (boy what a wonderful thing) is that we never clearly understood what we wanted, in a partner, in a marriage, in a job, in life in general.
We had this idea that we wanted to "be happy, be healthy," etc... very general ideas.
Without being able to define those things, we just sort of go through life. And then something like a bomb comes along, and throws us for a loop.
As we really start to look at things, our past, our present, what we would like our future to look like, we start to find the definitions and our future suddenly becomes much clearer and hopefully, much brighter.
It is a tool that will serve you well as you move down this road.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox