Hello 2, Catching up on your sitch a little, glad to hear your w is on the mend. Interesting turn of events, almost seems like a script for a book, providence taking a hand perhaps?
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
I agree to a point, but when I have March rent due in 2 days, I kinda, sorta need to know.
Plus, as I posted above, I don't want to over stay my welcome. If W is getting antsy with my presence and is reluctant to say something as evidenced by her inability to be direct in stating her needs in less delicate situations, then how am I supposed to know what she is thinking here?
I get the issue of money but it may come across to your W that you're more concerned about the finances than her or the R. If you can swing the rent, I would suggest just going ahead and paying it and have the place if you need it. That way you are prepared for any option.
If you need to know something, what is holding you back from the conversation? Is it fear? Is it concern for your wife? And if it is concern for your wife, is it valid & useful?
For myself (so it may not apply to you) I hold back on conversations because I'm worried how they will play out. I've learned that's not a good motivation for myself. Can you just let her know that you don't want to overstay your welcome and want to plan a time to leave that works best for both of you? That puts you in the driver seat and maybe gives her an option to thing about and freely discuss what she wants.
Just thoughts. take 'em or leave 'em. You now your sitch much better than I do. Good luck!
All good points, CES. I need to start a new thread so I will update on what I did today. Much along the lines of what you stated above.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
M1 I don't really expect things to be different, but I do need to understand where things stand as it relates to the current living situation and our future communication with each other.
I'll post more on this in my new thread, currently under development.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
