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labug #2229410 03/10/12 03:46 PM
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Grmpy-thanks.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2229411 03/10/12 03:53 PM
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Mnky=thanks, we're past the bugaboo. smile

You might like the movie Red Tails, about the Tuskegee Airman flying in WWII Italy. Cheesy dialogue and the acting not Oscar quality but the air-to-air combat scenes were pretty interesting. S19 loves this stuff. I think he can name every military plane ever! Amazing.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2229412 03/10/12 04:03 PM
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We had a presence at the local theaters on opening night. One those guys is buried here in our National Cemetery. Pretty silly seeing park rangers in the lobby of a theater.


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Bomb: 11/27/11
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Life goes on: 6/13


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Bug - you are definitely enough!

I believe you're a fruit wearing dancing queen! Definitely a smoky pepper.

La, your sitch and mine differ in many ways but I have learned so much and have been inspired by many of your posts. Sometimes they challenge me.. Sometimes they make me sad.. And sometimes they just make me laugh! I feel very priviledged to be walking this road with you!


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labug #2229417 03/10/12 04:13 PM
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"Trying to keep my feet and mind firmly planted in today, not worrying about the future or obsessing about the past.

All in all, I'm beginning to believe that I am enough."


I really like this ^^^! Great attitude and mindset! And as Laura Schlesinger used to say... Now, go take on the day!


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Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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Bugsy...your post was truly inspiring. You're really someone to admire. Your son and you having a night like that is so nice to hear...that's what life is all about. Your strength shines through everytime you speak to us all.

rickb89 #2229560 03/11/12 01:42 PM
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A very nice day yesterday.

Went to Alanon where the topic was self-criticism and how we let those critical voices in our heads rule us today. One person shared that she looked at those voices as junk mail. If I allow myself to be upset about the amt of junk mail I get, or take the time to open it to see what it is, or be resentful that I've taken time to be on the no junk-mail list, and still I get junk mail, I'm giving it too much power. However if I just throw it in the trash without opening it, it's gone.

Same with those old critical messages. Recognize what they are and don't open them. THROW THEM IN THE TRASH. What they are saying is not of value, the act of throwing them away is.

Stopped at one of my favorite GW Stores on the way home and found 2 books, Passionate Marriage and Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

S19 and I went to the Book Festival which was interesting. He got to show me his knowledge of the campus and I got to practice not offering driving or choice of route suggestions. smile

The biggest exhibitors at the Festival seemed to be NPS(we have lots of National Parks in AZ) and the folks selling e-readers. Hard to believe that in the not to distant future, "real" books will be a relic of the past.

The weather was perfect for an outdoor event, 70 was probably the high and there was no wind. Lots of people were taking advantage of the day.

I did have one weird moment. There were a lot of people there, lots of young families and couples and I thought "Wonder who of these is going to have the bomb dropped on them this week?"

I quickly dropped that junk mail in the trash and moved on.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2229562 03/11/12 01:49 PM
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"I did have one weird moment. There were a lot of people there, lots of young families and couples and I thought "Wonder who of these is going to have the bomb dropped on them this week?"

I quickly dropped that junk mail in the trash and moved on."


I like this.... a lot!! Nice job, labug!!


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Thanks, 2.

Another thing from the Book Festival yesterday...

Divorce Recovery had a booth and are in the process of making a book with a child's rules for divorce.

They had several topics on a big flip chart and kids could indicate those that were important to them by placing sticky stars next to them.

Those with the most stars were: Spend big occasions together, don't talk negatively about the other parent, don't put kids in the middle. There were others but unfotunately frown there were a lot of people around that booth and I couldn't see the rest.

Food for thought.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
labug #2229630 03/11/12 06:56 PM
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OOOOO- I would TOTALLY buy the kid's book!! Can't wait for it to be released!!

I like the idea of putting it in the trash. I'll try to visualize that next time the negatives come creeping up in my head!

Sounds like it was an enjoyable time with S, and I'm sure he appreciated not having the driving tips smile


M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12
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