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#2225763 - 02/28/12 02:09 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 12/17/11
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A couple of new emails from wife today about finances and taxes. I swear, I've had warmer exchanges with a bill collector.

So hear we are just over three months post-bomb. She is still as cold as day one. How in the h#ll did those of you past month six last so long? Totally losing my patience with this..
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Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2225764 - 02/28/12 02:09 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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that's here we are..
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Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.

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#2225766 - 02/28/12 02:14 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Registered: 01/25/12
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Originally Posted By: Grmpy_Mnky
A couple of new emails from wife today about finances and taxes. I swear, I've had warmer exchanges with a bill collector.

So hear we are just over three months post-bomb. She is still as cold as day one. How in the h#ll did those of you past month six last so long? Totally losing my patience with this..


I here ya Mnky, 3 months and a week for me and same boat, cold as ice! Doubting I even want to make it much longer right now...6 months+ seems like a pipe dream!
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M 43, W 40
T 22. M 14
D 14, S 9, S 8
DD 11/21/11
Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!


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#2225769 - 02/28/12 02:19 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Grmpy_Mnky]
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Mnky I am going on almost 8 months. I can add on top of the 8 months the previous 2 years where she became distant. People tell me that that is a drop in the bucket. So you wait until you say no more. But no more of what? That is my question.
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W 50
D 17
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 11/12
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

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#2225771 - 02/28/12 02:22 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Rick1963]
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Registered: 01/25/12
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Wow, that's not gonna happen in my case. When I graduate from my training if we aren't piecing I'm gonna bail. I will at least know that I gave it my all at that point. I guess that will be a year or so into this madness. For my own sanity I cannot take much more. You guys are better than me.
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M 43, W 40
T 22. M 14
D 14, S 9, S 8
DD 11/21/11
Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!


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#2225777 - 02/28/12 02:33 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: jlove]
Mach1 Offline
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Registered: 11/04/08
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Wow....

You take as much as you can take...

Grmpy and Rick...you know you won't get any sympathy from me just yet....

: )

J....If you are willing to put a timeline of affairs of the heart, you might as well give up now...

Anyone can do the "better"

Takes a special breed to get through the "worse"

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#2225781 - 02/28/12 02:40 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Mach1]
jlove Offline
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Registered: 01/25/12
Posts: 126
Originally Posted By: Mach1
Wow....

You take as much as you can take...

Grmpy and Rick...you know you won't get any sympathy from me just yet....

: )

J....If you are willing to put a timeline of affairs of the heart, you might as well give up now...

Anyone can do the "better"

Takes a special breed to get through the "worse"






maybe, feeling like that lately. Hard being sober for the first time in 25 years, in the shape of my life and nobody to share it all with partner wise. At least something good happened out of this! Don't really have a timeline, but i'll need to see progress which I get little of now.
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M 43, W 40
T 22. M 14
D 14, S 9, S 8
DD 11/21/11
Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!


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#2225782 - 02/28/12 02:41 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: jlove]
Mach1 Offline
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Registered: 11/04/08
Posts: 3692
Originally Posted By: jlove
but i'll need to see progress which I get little of now.


Progress in what ????

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#2225784 - 02/28/12 02:44 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: Mach1]
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Registered: 01/25/12
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Originally Posted By: Mach1
Originally Posted By: jlove
but i'll need to see progress which I get little of now.


Progress in what ????



Our relationship. Perhaps dealing with the issues she has with us. MC, etc.
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M 43, W 40
T 22. M 14
D 14, S 9, S 8
DD 11/21/11
Retrouvaille 4/13/12--and the healing begins as we begin a new journey together!


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#2225787 - 02/28/12 02:50 PM Re: Wife in "D - freight train mode" Pt.2 [Re: jlove]
Mach1 Offline
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Registered: 11/04/08
Posts: 3692
Originally Posted By: jlove

Our relationship. Perhaps dealing with the issues she has with us. MC, etc.


When does SHE get to work on her own issues ?

When do you ???

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