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#2222772 - 02/16/12 09:54 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: Rick1963]
whatisis Offline
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Registered: 10/25/05
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Loc: Canada
Thanks Rick, we were married 17 years. I teared up at work a couple of times today but if I didn't I'd be worried! The end is eleven days away... and then a new beginning.
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#2222780 - 02/16/12 10:25 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: whatisis]
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17 years is a long time and I bet many of those years were good? If not most. Like Albert Ellis would say " it ain't the end of the world". Wish you well
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D 17
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Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

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#2223229 - 02/18/12 12:16 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: Rick1963]
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I talked with SDA Lady this morning. It was accidental actually. I pressed her number by accident. Anyway, we started talking and she told me she had just finished talking to her D20 in the Philippines who was having some issues she wanted to talk to her Mom about. I didn't inquire further but then SDA Lady said "could I talk to you about it? Sometimes two heads are better than one." Apparently Dad is being very controlling with D20. So we talked about the issue and how hard it is to be the parent on the outside when these issues come up. All you can really do is advise your child as best you can, listen and empathize. Anyway, it was a nice feeling to know that SDA Lady looked to me to share this with. I didn't inquire when she said her D20 had some issues cuz that was her business. She asked me if we could talk about it. That was nice, it means she trusts me.
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#2223503 - 02/19/12 10:39 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: whatisis]
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Another lovely day with SDA Lady. We went to a mall downtown because the T-shirts she bought last week were too small and this store has two outlets in the entire city! We hung around the mall for a bit, I'm learning about designer fashions. We also spent time at a bookstore. Afterwards we went to a vegetarian buffet restaurant I know where you pay according to the weight of your plate. We stayed there for about two hours. SDA Lady pulled the Hershey's X's and O's chocolates I bought for her last week out of her purse for our dessert. She brought them so we could share them, she said "have a kiss, you already get the hugs" I said the chocolate was very sweet and she said "just like you". I dropped her off at about 9:00pm. When I got home I texted her thanking her for a lovely play date (the 6 year old she's a Nanny to wished her a happy play date before she left). She then phoned me and we talked for another 45 minutes. Tomorrow we are going to the Science Centre and to Montana's for dinner and she says it's her turn to pay. I can live with that. So, we're having a wonderful time together, we're both very affectionate. She takes my hand as often as I take hers. We hug and snuggle on the subway train...and we just keep on talking to each other. It's nice.
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#2223505 - 02/19/12 10:48 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: whatisis]
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Yay for you, Wii. I'm happy to hear it. smile

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#2223576 - 02/20/12 12:05 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: kml]
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Registered: 12/12/07
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Loc: GA
Sounds marvelous!
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#2223682 - 02/20/12 06:03 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: mishka422]
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Registered: 09/07/09
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Hey on the divorce thing on the previous page. I understand completely. My "prove-up" day here, the final hearing, I didn't/couldn't go. I made sure I was working out of town. I couldn't stand in front of a judge and hear the gavel come down.

Of course, as you've seen on my thread, I'm still an emotional wreck at times.
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#2223721 - 02/20/12 08:52 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: ClingingToHope]
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Well, I got SDA Lady to my apartment today...and let's just say I'm not getting any for a looooooooong time! We had a talk on you know what and we discussed the differences between dating here and the Philippines...when I picked her up off the floor she was fine lol. I said "I know in the Philippines you guys can go six months before even kissing" and she said "Yes, we can and we do!" She told me she wanted to know about how things happen here. One of her fears about dating here was that she didn't know what men would want. I told her that just because I was telling her that things go faster here doesn't mean that I want her to do anything she isn't comfortable with. I said "I will never push you to do anything you don't want to do" So we had a good talk about you know what. I said that I was OK with not being physically intimate, I just needed to know that she cared about me and she said she needed the same from me. Then we went out for dinner.
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#2223723 - 02/20/12 08:53 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: whatisis]
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Registered: 10/25/05
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Loc: Canada
Btw, we did a lot of snuggling on the couch, it wasn't a completely wasted effort on my part lol!
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Divorced February 27, 2012.

Hope is not about moving mountains but about moving loose rocks one at a time ~ Fredrike Bannink

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#2223727 - 02/20/12 09:19 PM Re: Another thread, another needle to pull [Re: whatisis]
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Registered: 12/12/07
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Loc: GA
6 months waiting for a simple kiss??????????? Omg! I'm going to watch for a mushroom cloud coming from the great white north.
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T19 M15 S19 XH46 M42
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!


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