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#2222959 - 02/17/12 12:22 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: rickb89]
labug Offline
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Originally Posted By: rickb89
Ummmm....why are you suggesting going to the sex starved marriage board?


Because that's where Accuray's thread is. crazy

His wife has been depressed, she has had A (can't remember if EA, PA, not that it matters), she makes no movements toward him, thinks he should accept her just as she is.

Just thought it might have some useful insights for you.

I've found inspiration on many of the different boards here.
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#2222970 - 02/17/12 12:44 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: bustorama]
rickb89 Offline
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Thanks Busto. I feel better given your input...it helps.

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#2222972 - 02/17/12 12:50 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: labug]
rickb89 Offline
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Originally Posted By: labug
Originally Posted By: rickb89
Ummmm....why are you suggesting going to the sex starved marriage board?


Because that's where Accuray's thread is. crazy

His wife has been depressed, she has had A (can't remember if EA, PA, not that it matters), she makes no movements toward him, thinks he should accept her just as she is.

Just thought it might have some useful insights for you.

I've found inspiration on many of the different boards here.


Thanks Bugaboo....I'll read it. I thought maybe you were busting my chops with the sex starved thing! Funny though...I miss the simple stuff w/ her more than anything else or maybe I've just blocked that part of the brain to protect myself!

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#2222977 - 02/17/12 01:03 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: rickb89]
barely floating Offline
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Registered: 12/13/11
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rick.. that was so beautifully written and said so much of how i've been feeling as well. it is such a scary path because of the fear of what we are possibly leaving behind. but there is a sense of calm knowing that we will be ok.. no matter what.

((((( rick )))))

you are such a caring, insightful individual. and a great father to boot.
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#2222978 - 02/17/12 01:07 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: barely floating]
labug Offline
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...and looks great in a speedo blush

sorry, couldn't resist. It is a great post and reflects much of where I am right now.
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#2222986 - 02/17/12 01:18 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: labug]
barely floating Offline
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smile hahaha. great minds think alike! i was going to say something about speedos in my response too but thought it would negate my heartfelt message.
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#2223000 - 02/17/12 02:10 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: barely floating]
rickb89 Offline
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Funny...never worn one...yet branded for life by this! You know it depends in who wears it. I could be a cross between pee wee herman and don knotts...

2TP forever scarred a nation of LBS'ers with his post. I think he got off on it!

Barely....I get what you're saying. I'm starting to feel like I will be okay...in fact having these flashes of a new life, new home, unrestrained future, unrestrained love. I feel good just writing this!

((((((Barely)))))))))))) & ((((((((Bug)))))) thanks guys

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#2223003 - 02/17/12 02:14 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: rickb89]
kolja Offline
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Registered: 12/15/11
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As an aside, speedo also makes less revealing trunks. The ones I burn laps with are more like bike shorts - streamlined, but much more modest. Yet one must be careful how one describes it, lest one's coworkers come to the conclusion that one wears a speedo...
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#2223025 - 02/17/12 02:42 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: kolja]
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Originally Posted By: kolja
As an aside, speedo also makes less revealing trunks. The ones I burn laps with are more like bike shorts - streamlined, but much more modest. Yet one must be careful how one describes it, lest one's coworkers come to the conclusion that one wears a speedo...


No you did not! Did you just mention bicycle shorts! Hang tight, let me see if I can find a list of slang names for those dreadful bicycle shorts.... laugh
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#2223056 - 02/17/12 03:49 PM Re: DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 4) [Re: 2thepoint]
rickb89 Offline
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Kolja just opened up pandora's box - 2TP is on another mission!

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