Jealous of your wonderful Christmas. My family is still somewhat torn asunder by all that has passed. Next year, I vow to be better at organization and participation. Time just really got away from me this year. Then, when lightening hit my computer! Suffice it to say, I've been a bit out of it this month.
SA I had what I thought was a heartfelt apology and desire to reconcile at the beginning of 2011 - this was more than 5 years post bomb. However this period of remorse and regret and attempted reconciliation lasted about 2/3 weeks, and it was like watching snow melting in the sun, he gradually withdrew back into MLC, and I would say has been 'worse' since then . . . . Was it anything I did. No I truly do not think so. I was supportive, non pressurising, and let him talk as much as he wanted to.
I believe I had worked through my own anger and demonstrated forgiveness . . . . So apology is no indicator that they are coming out of MLC. I believe they 'wake up' periodically, and Dr Jekyll attempts to claw his way out, but MLC and their unresolved issues so often pull them back into what has become an easier way of life. Dealing with the aftermath of betrayal is hard for the MLCer.