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Well, detachment or a wall you've put up, or a combo of both, I guess. My doctor always defined detachment as a feeling of neutrality, no ups or downs, no plusses or minuses, just a state of being.

If one was to feel uncomfortable if another embraced her, then that would still show attachment based on at least her definition, as you should feel "nothing" if you are neutral. If you had the attachment but felt uncomfortable, then I'd say it's more a wall of self-protection you're erecting to protect yourself emotionally, and there is nothing wrong with that as far as I'm concerned. As long as you don't erect walls with other people, there is probably a point where it's necesssary to have them with those who hurt us most.


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Maybe it is a wall. But then I'm not exactly comfortable with strangers hugging me, and now he's a stranger to me.
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So, I had a meeting this afternoon with my child's teachers and counselor. Kid is struggling. STBX knew the time and place of the meeting and said he would try to make it. STBX did not show. I am not really upset, just disappointed that again the load rests on me. Yes, I have broad shoulders, am strong and will do everything in my power to advocate for my child. Just sad STBX continues to dodge the opportunities to earn respect in his own and his son's eyes.


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QoS,

Alt = popular social networking site.

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Cadet would tell you if he could but that would violate the

agreement that is made when you subscribe to this site.

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I know that too, thanks.


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How about the most popular. You hear about it all the time. Prospective employers, even colleges look at it sometimes to evaluate prospects. You post pictures, personal info, connect with old friends, aquaintances, etc.

Founder's initials are MZ

Does that help any?

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Thank you, it gives me a place to start. I appreciate the clues.
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This is not really a clue but you will struggle to find any of us that have been posting to you today.


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Heck I can't even find a listing on the alt!


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