Our kids suffered thru our divorce. Sadly, my son found solace in having a catch with me. Sometimes, my son would drag me outside 4X-a-day. Sometimes, he would drag me out at 8AM before the bus came. We would have a catch. Over and over again. Eventually, he began to throw really well.
On opening day, my son pitched four innings. He let up no runs. He retired the side with 12 pitches. This Saturday, he nearly had a perfect inning. He threw 12 strikeouts. He's been asked to pitch on his travel team and also to become a core member to stay with the team over the years. He has an on base percentage of .600 and consistently hits into the outfield.
This is not a brag. In fact, as I drove home after this 1st game, I couldn't keep the tears from pouring down my face. The pain was so great. You see, in his attempt to escape his pain, he would run outside to have a catch with his father. In an attempt to escape his pain, he learned to throw. In an attempt to escape his pain, he developed a desire to pitch.
I'm so proud of my son. I just wish that, life had given him a different start.
What a wonderful, loving, inspiring story! I love it.
When we moved to Alaska son was then 12 and it was NOT a friendly town we were in. He got into fights for the first time in his life, and all were started by the "friendly's..."
Then h coached wrestling and got our son into it. 2 years later, son was a state champion twice. All from getting beat up.
He's also not a little shrimp now either. Turns 25 tomorrow and is 6'3", 200 lbs solid...
he still recalls it and you know, I think he's pretty proud of himself today. Your son will be too. I doubt he'll see it the way you do. Focus on the pride you feel, you sensitive guy you.
I played softball into college and think, in hindsight, that dad's drinking kept me out all summer with as many teams (summer, competitive, school, all stars and tournaments) as possible, to get out of the house.
God help me for saying this, but sometimes, "thru suffering we grow" and don't we know that here?!
So good to hear from you. Glad your w is....less batchit....?
(( ))
PS hey ease up on the chick who had some drinks and LIKED you. Most guys I met when sep were expecting that.
I told them "hey I barely know you", etc b/c we were in long m's and it's not something that I can just switch off....
she may have thought it was the thing to do and you were the first guy who looked good AND had a job....(AND teeth...and no criminal record. )
PS CALL NYS Child Supp idiots to confirm they got your letters...(OMG don't assume they'll do the right thing!)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hey, FIB - I just tried to reach Kalni thru FB - if she is around I will try to let you know...
I so get the story you told about your son and baseball....it is so hard to watch our kids grow to get through hurts, no matter what caused them.
As far as the over-eager date....there is a HUGE scope of what people expect on a first date, but I agree with you. I always mess up when first meeting someone and stick my hand out to shake and they come closer to hug. I mean, I've never met some of these guys before - it seems too intimate for the initial contact (maybe at the end of the date if it went well). Are we prudes?
sorry I've been MIA, Donna I no longer have a facebook account. I am sorry I didnt contact you. This trip ended up being very "private" for me and H (and very very short). We talked about meeting people (friends of his and mine -you) and decided we would spend the time alone. I am very sorry Donna I didnt reply but while in NY I didnt check accounts-emails etc at all.
We'll be coming back soon though... Take care all K
Kalni - That's ok - I so hope that things are working well for you and your H. I know that there have been a few people missing you over at FB. Hope you keep in touch and that life keeps getting better and better!
Old timer...I love all the Chinese stories. Do you remember the one about the 5 chinese brothers? a story that was read to us as kids??
Kalni...sorry we all missed you. Better that you had private time as needed.
Donna..PRUDES? Nah. I think priorities change a bit.
So...I try to check in here to update. I 'wince' a bit. I remember I used to be here everyday for hours, searching for answers and hope, etc.
XW and I only communicate on a need basis. Most communications remain with email and texting. We CAN talk on the phone re: issues related to the kids but, it still turns my stomach a bit (hey, I can handle it). LOL.
XW is still with her new dude. Been over a year now. I can probably thank him for the extra time I had with the kids. I rememember how scared I was that the other man would assume my role as father. Well, Kerry K was right. He didn't. Ofttimes the kids don't want to leave to go back to XW.
I had to go back to family court to straighten out stupid child support issues. I had been paying XW directly and when the CSU kicked in, since they hadn't seen all these payments, I was labeled as being in arrears. I have a petition filed now which should straighten this all out.
I will never get used to going to that horrible place. I stand in line with biker dudes, prostitutes, dertbawls...and...hey..maybe someone can explain to me why women go to court with their boobs hanging out and cameltoes. Why is that? Impress the judge???
Finally, I am coming up on one year in my work and things look good. I am making my bills and climbing out of debt. Now, I just need to find someone to share this with.
Hugs to all.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, in the end I never set foot in court. I am thankful for that. The L office took care of the child support issue. It's like a tax now -- social security, income. The only thing is I still have to pay her a separate insurance payment.
I'm trying to set money aside so I can make a big one time big payment in January for the year and then no more checks to XW.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
You're doing great CTH. Life moves one. Divorce is devastating. My kids STILL say, particularly my D8, that they wish we got back together. In the long run, you'll see that the relationship really was NOT meant to last. Saying goodbye to any comfort...is not easy.
My kids recently were in the car and I was saying goodnight to them and, prior to a long stretch without see them, I said I was going to miss them.
S10: "..but dad, you've gotten used to this by now."
Me: No S10, I've ADAPTED to this. I will NEVER get used to not being with my kids.
mulesqb from here: "Tough times don't last. Tough men do."
CTH, looks like you fit the bill. Make it a great day.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Add: XW's father was in the hospital with 2 massive MI's. Old followers here will recall how he turned on me, sued me, threatened me with the police, etc.
Took the high road. Offered XW support and wished a speedy recovery.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
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