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kml #2124703 01/28/11 09:51 PM
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Document everything. Save every correspondance and take pictures of your property. In her state of mind right now, you don't know what she's capable of doing.

Protect yourself first and foremost.


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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MrBond #2124725 01/28/11 10:43 PM
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Thanks guys. I don't know if I should keep posting here. I just don't know if this story is going to inspire anyone with a spouse worth fighting for smirk

I'm worth fighting for though. smile


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ots #2124769 01/29/11 01:19 AM
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ots,

You're not here to inspire anyone. You're here to get help. And YES, you are worth fighting for.

EVERYTHING KML AND BOND SAID. If you have joint credit cards, whether there is a balance or not, you can close them. Do that NOW.

I suspected that she is on drugs. Can you stay away from the house? Can you just get your stuff and get out of there???? Listen, you don't know what she is involved in. If there are drugs in that house, you have a problem. Call your lawyer. Find out what kind of trouble you could have there. Tell him/her what you smelled. The last thing you need is a drug charge against you because of her.

ots, please stick with us. Bond and kml are awesome and have been around the block with people a few times. They are great resources.

Please, take care of yourself and keep us updated on how this is going.

LIS


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lostinscared #2125038 01/30/11 04:33 AM
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Been staying at a friends while I apartment hunt. Moving in with two good friends, to keep rent down.

Went out tonight, had a nice time. The temptation to get boldly hammered is great, but I've been able to keep that in check. Had one beer. Saw some people I know and like. Met some new people. Talked to a girl. Came home (to friends) alone.

Baby steps.

I'm not quite my boisterous, super-outgoing self, but I'm not total downer dude either.


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ots #2125210 01/31/11 12:11 AM
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Then you know what? You are way ahead of me!!! And I was bombed 3 months previous. You have a lot to be proud of!!!!! And I am proud of you!

It's going to take a little while for you become boisterous again. Give yourself some time for that! You have kind been in a train wreck so you need some recovery time.

Any interactions with your W?


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lostinscared #2125310 01/31/11 04:54 AM
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Well, today was interesting. I feel like a switch tripped in my head. Dopamine has reentered my neural pathways. I have things to look forward to next week. Apartment hunting. 2 get to know you social interactions with members of the opposite sex. 2 job interviews.

Now, I don't know the details of your sitch, Lost, but I really can't imagine a better situation for getting over things than mine. At this point, I don't know that there's anything my STBX could do that would make me take her back, short of finding out she has a tumor that made her act this way. I've completely "dropped the rope" I will not let her actions control my emotions. I haven't had any interaction with her since Thursday, and I don't plan to. I will let my L handle it from here out.

I will recommend the following song, though I don't know your taste in music: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAtg6_PSSyY

Actually, the whole album is great for our sitch.

I truly hope we both have weeks that see us happier at the end than they are now!


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Please let us know how your job interviews go. I think that is awesome!!!!

That is such a great song and THANK YOU.

I am glad that you are taking care of yourself and getting better. I have to tell you that your turnaround is nothing short of amazing. I'm so sorry for what you are going through but I hope that you are starting to realize that better days ARE ahead for you. You are worth the changes you are making and you are starting to realize that. That is just so awesome!!!

Has there been any other developments with W and the accusations she's made against you?


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lostinscared #2125765 02/01/11 05:41 PM
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Job interview went well enough that I got a call scheduling me for the final interview. This is a good thing.

Interesting: during IC yesterday, my little old lady therapist told me to go "get laid", but don't start looking for a new relationship. Laughed hard. Felt good.

I have a date tonight.


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ots #2125774 02/01/11 06:07 PM
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And so when's the final date of your D?


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER
MrBond #2125793 02/01/11 06:46 PM
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That is so awesome about the interview. Congratulations!!!

Be careful with the dating thing, ok? And seriously, how in the world did you get a date already!!!??? I'm jealous!

I know MrBond before you come after me... I'm not there yet. smile


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