Well, I was served on Monday the 14th of June. stbxWH sat on the papers for a month. I think I still need to be able to comment on my thread and hope to get some advice from others who have been there.
So, how do I tell everyone? I am returning to work after staying home for a year with my baby. I haven't told my school. I just don't know where to start.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
sorry- one more q- what do I do with my ring? I mean I am thinking of pawning it but do I really want $500 or some piddly amount? is it worth it? what did you do?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Just tell the school you are getting divorced. They need no more information than that.
Friends, coworkers, etc.? I am at the point right now that I simply say, "Mrs. G. decided her own path was more important than our vows." And while it's not my usual LBH compelled-to-tell-the-whole-story spiel, It still has more of an edge to it than it should. I'll probably condense it further to, "she chose her own path." Period.
My ring is in the Atlantic Ocean in the exact spot from where I once watched her on shore and first admitted to myself, "God, I love her!"
The Surviving The Big D roller coaster begins the same as the others. But it eventually slows down an begins to level out.
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"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Yeah I have finally started to "invade" the wine fridge, which has wine stocked from our trip to Napa and other wine tasting outings. So far, the 3 different Pinot Noirs from 2006 SUCKED!! I opened one, tried a few tastes, let it breathe, no good. Dumped it out. Did the same for the other 2. So there is $100 red wine literally "down the drain!" lol! I enjoyed wasting it for some reason.
Well I guess the reason why I am so reluctant to tell everyone is that when I left the school, I was big and pregnant and didn't tell anyone my WH had left me. As you know, I was hoping for reconciliation. They were all excited for me and my husband to start our new family.
But I guess I can keep it simple and say "my H freaked out and decided he'd rather be a part time dad than have a family." OR like Gardener shortened it, "My H freaked out."
Am feeling ANGRY today. WH is trying to act all friendly and casual and excited about moving back to our town to be closer to S so he "doesn't have to spend so much time in traffic." And whose fault is that?
So am just venting. I look forward to following others' threads and seeing how you all navigate through this.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
My .02. You may want to save it for son. Someday he will ask what happened and may feel insecure or whatever. It would be a nice symbol of the love that existed when he was conceived.
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"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
You know, my now-XW sent an email to my boys' teachers to let them know what was going on - just because there was kind of a need to know there, so they were aware.
Most people close to me knew what was going on as it happened, but at this point I don't really feel a need to say it. I live my life, do my things, and will occasionally say things like "Sorry can't make it, I've got my boys tonight" and I leave it at that. I guess if I'd have advice, I say if you need to mention it then mention it in passing.
The ring? It's in my closet. I don't know, it's still important to me, in the sense that it represents 10 years - well let's say 11 if you count the end - of my life. It represents the period that gave me my boys, and a relationship that was significant to me. I guess I don't feel a need to do ANYTHING with it. I know XW is keeping hers, thinking that she'll give it to one of the boys to give to his wife some day.
