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HM and friends - great thread and line of thought. I just caught up, and so much relates...

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HM and friends - great thread and line of thought. I just caught up, and so much relates...

glad you find it relevant. hope there's something helpful here!


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we accepted it because someone we loved and who we believed loved us was telling us that...in actions as well as in words...

i compare it to an abusive relationship
(which I have been in too...)
no one would be in a relationship with a person who punched them on the 1st date
but
they don't smack you on the 1st date

they didn't treat us like we sucked on the 1st date


Sadly it was the opposite. I think that is part of the personality disorder, making you trust and eventually become dependent on them.

but never again, right?


Yeah, trusting again will be hard.


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no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.


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no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.


Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.


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no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.


Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.
wow, do I know that feeling!! could be why my best friends are online....


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Originally Posted By: hoosiermama
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no, what I meant was that we've suffered and we've learned, and if we integrate this into our lives we are not as likely to make the same mistake again.


Ok, that works too. LOL But seriously, I am a little leary of my own judgment at this point, and tend to keep people at a distance. I hope I get past that.
wow, do I know that feeling!! could be why my best friends are online....


I have good RL friends. I don't have a problem trusting women.....it is men. I make eye contact, I talk, I flirt, I dance, I run like hell!!!!!!


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Suzy...
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