Wait, I am confused...somehow you did get his password covertly? He did not volunteer it up though, right

***Oh my gosh, just re-read your post Kalni
Sorry I see that he does give you his password.****

OK, a world of difference.


Sorry about that- I blame my morning "fog", getting kids ready for bus, blah-blah-blah...

LOL, june, dont worry about it. Long story short, yesterday morning I asked for his password and copies of his call records. He replied he has nothing to hide and why dont I get it and then at the end, had written the password.

He just called, going home early, like now (15:00) because of a strike...
K

That is totally awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now, my heart is melting towards him....
I think he is sincere with his love for you

Hey, no need to be sarcastic... Seriously. I am not dumb, dont worry.

A strike? Good heavens! how does anything in Europe ever get accomplished? It seems like one country or another is constantly having a strike. That does it, I'm moving!

Sorry, couldn't resist a little levity this morning with my coffee.

Seriously K, you have the (banned p word) of a saint. I would have had his a$$ served by now. I understand he is depressed, he sounds like a completely lost soul and needs help and support but he is sucking the life out of you because he refuses to see that he needs serious help for himself. He feeds off of your energy and lives in orbit around you. If you were not in the picture at all he would have hit the bottom and who knows where that might have led. It's really hard to read how horribly his actions (or lack of action) is effecting your stability.

Maria, you know how much I love and care about you. I would love to see your H come out of this depression and work his way back to being a truly loving man, but without IC and, IMO, meds, he is going to remain in this deep hole. It depletes your energy and is difficult on your children. Do they ever express themselves to him? In front of him? Does he have a clue how badly they are hurting because of his inability to be a loving man to you? Children feel the love between their parents and that gives them security. Without being secure in their parents love and support to each other, they can not be secure in their own lives. Just being present in their lives is not showing them love or support, he may as well be a paid sitter.

Has he shown any further interest at all in seeing the IC?

I have nothing but respect for you Maria. You are in an unenviable situation that is slowly killing your spirit. Feed your soul Maria. Make your jewelry, paint, take your kids to your uncle's for the long weekend and let get some space and perspective.

Love you girl!!!!!

I'm not at a loss.....


I'm not.....

FIB

Sorry, actually I wasn't being sarcastic at all.


I was knocked off my butt seeing he is trying. I am changing my thinking about him. Maybe he is not the bad guy I thought he was.


Sorry it came off that way,,, I was rushing out the door.

I don't know, I certainly am not the best advice giver. Just my opinions....

C'mon guys, this thread is for Maria and as far as I can tell..she is choosing to work on this M! This is a divorceBUSTING forum, not a hey-you-should-dump-your-lousy-H forum. So, we respect that choice, right?

Hey M... saw the pic.. ok.. that’s it, no more feeling bad about yourself… she looks like A MAN !!!

Seriously. Like a transexua*l, I am NOT KIDDING (jeez, what does THAT say about H!!??!! )

She is NOT PRETTY !!!! Ok, well visual assasination over, I have met you and seen more than one pic of her and you two DO NOT compare. She looks cheap, absolutely, I totally agree. So thats what it was and you know it, deep down. Men always dumb down for affairs, right? You look... classy. Etheral.

I am SOOOOO glad he gave you the password, I dont care if he did it a little grudgingly!! So... did you check through all his folders and messages and... nothing huh?

OK.. so, as a "control experiment" to prove I am not biaised, I showed the pic to bf and simply asked him what he thought? HAAHAHAHA, sorry, but he said this.....

"Dear lord! Maybe it’s a bad pic but she looks like a man in drag!"



(Hey I dont know why I am laughing, when I showed pics of Helen to my BFF and Mum they both said straight away.. My god... she looks like your SISTER!!!..URGHH!)