Long story short. XH left for OW in 12-2006. Divorce official in 01-2008. XH married OW in 2008... XH separated from OW in 02-09 for reconciliation but went back to OW after 24hrs and then left OW in 09-09, looking at a possible reconciliation. XH says he needs space and time to heal... wondering if the time is really to heal or to decided if he is really serious about Recon... or rather return to OW... its been a few months and supposibly the relationship with OW has been over since this summer... just starting to think that once again the joke will be on me... I am having second thoughts about everything at the moment... any feedback welcomed...

He really did divorce you, are you sure you want him back? I understand if he hadn't married her, but he did. He doesn't sound too excited about M.

I know part of me wants to run as fast as I can in an opposit direction yet part of me thinks its important to give it a try... thanks for the feedback onthemountaintop...

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I wish I had something to offer you. You have been through so much and I know it's prob been hell. I cannot imagine going through all of it- though I would hope against hope that if W and I D, that someday she would really want to reconcile.

I cannot live like that though, so I need to fend for myself. Just as you have been.

I would highly suggest you go about your life and your business- you must be strong b/c you've already lived through all of it.

He is the one who need to come begging- BEGGING!! If he has done so, then you MUST keep a guard up.

For what it's worth, it sounds like he blamed you and your R for his issues, took up with OW, now blames her for his issues, and is considering returning to you never having dealt with his own mood and life's unhappiness issues in the interim. Beware. Has he gotten any counseling or church support or done any self help at all? Is he going to bounce from woman to woman his entire life looking for "happiness" he can't find within?