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Mama needs a plan and it probably should not include alcohol.


RIGHT. I gave it up on the day the bomb "blowed up." Need to be able to think clearly.

Hang in there. You WILL get through this and emerge on the other side as a MUCH stronger person.


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I don't even drink much anyway but just saying that I could be driven to it IYKNWIM... smirk



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So, spent hours crying and going through things today. Trying to be proactive.

H just texted asking me if I'm doing ok...

and my answer is?



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Do you feel you must answer?


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I have not responded yet. The only reason I would want to respond is if he is actually concerned.

I could just answer "yes"...



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Do you think the income really went down, or do you think he has found a way to hide his income from you?

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Originally Posted By: Sara
Do you think the income really went down, or do you think he has found a way to hide his income from you?


Sara, you're sounding too much like me now. I thought it all seemed too convenient... Glad I'm not the only paranoid one around here... wink


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I have not responded yet. The only reason I would want to respond is if he is actually concerned.

I could just answer "yes"...




IMO, not responding is a the best response... Unless it invites a phone call to ask the same thing in which case "yes" would suffice... If he calls, I'd cut it short...


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I think it actually went down. He was chasing rainbows instead of really going where he knew the money was. He was working with almost no equipment. I think that he has a sort of subconscious scorched earth approach to this time in his life...lose everything and then start fresh. I can't be sure. Maybe he's hiding a little but I really don't think so. He is now taking projects he would never have taken before for less money because he is back in "reality." He was traveling and meandering before so it wasn't really registering.

I didn't answer his text before and now he texted asking if I think he should do a particular something with the kids. I'm cool with not having responded to the text about if I'm ok...

BTW- I saw a picture of H with another woman (beautiful young woman) on his computer (I was getting some other things off of there). It was right on the desktop..conspicuously. Hurt like hell because it was one of those oh so newly in love kind of shots...I cried a lot just from the weirdness of it. And still, I wonder why does he want me to see this?

But, I'm pretty clear that my first basic necessity is getting the legal arrangement for how much I will get every month so I know finally what I am working with and in turn, where I can afford to live etc.

Brutal day. Just brutal. But I'm going to go shower it off and got to a friend's birthday party.



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