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#1856279 - 10/15/09 03:41 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Virtually_Handsome]
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Registered: 12/30/08
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Exactly why I didn't think it was a good idea. You are not ready. And for that matter, neither is she.


I guess not. I keep thinking I am and it always falls apart.

I was wondering where yall got the whore thing from. I went back and looked at my post and didn't realize I put "whore situation". I meant to say "whole situation".

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856281 - 10/15/09 03:44 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Originally Posted By: K4D
and I said well hopefully you are being faithful


There was this part, too.... maybe you didn't say the word, but you certainly said the idea.
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#1856291 - 10/15/09 03:53 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Virtually_Handsome]
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I guess I was the fool and not the wise man as I did not keep my lips zipped.

I did tell her that she has become a whore hopping from bed to bed defiling our covenant and marriage bed.

I get SO FRUSTURATED with her sometimes. I need to not care. I found out about OM #2 last Monday. So for a week I just surpessed my feelings on it. And then she pushed me and pushed me last night and I let my frusturation and anger about the situation show when I was tired of being griped out by her.

I just wasn't sure where yall were getting that from.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856294 - 10/15/09 03:57 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Why does so much tension build up in me and her when we are about to spend time together? It just doesn't make sense.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856296 - 10/15/09 03:59 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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I give her space and give her space and work on myself and then we are about to spend time together and all that tension just shoots back in there for both of us.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856301 - 10/15/09 04:01 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Registered: 08/25/09
Posts: 138
Loc: KY
Originally Posted By: K4D
Why does so much tension build up in me and her when we are about to spend time together? It just doesn't make sense.


Because she is MY wife. I will not stand for MY wife acting this way. She doesn't care for MY feelings.

Stop setting all of those Land MY's!
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#1856303 - 10/15/09 04:02 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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From what I'm reading, it doesn't sound there's much love at all between you two. Try to find out if you really love your W or if you are just addicted to being married.


CTH,

I do love her. I am not interested in being with someone else. If I was addicted to M, I would jump onto someone else instead of staying faithful.

I just sometimes don't show it with my actions. My emotions betray me.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856304 - 10/15/09 04:02 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Registered: 07/30/09
Posts: 882
Loc: Missouri
Originally Posted By: K4D
Nope, I am the bad guy because I didn't show my W respect when I got tired of listening to her yell at me.

Kevin


I'm not making a judgment of good or bad when it comes to either of you. Will say that at this point your R is broken and being together in any form is negatively impacting both of you. Trying to work on your R at this point would be like trying to dig for gold in a flood.
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#1856314 - 10/15/09 04:11 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: C-Bart]
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Will say that at this point your R is broken and being together in any form is negatively impacting both of you. Trying to work on your R at this point would be like trying to dig for gold in a flood.


It does seem that way. I don't know why it is that way. But I can't argue with you.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856320 - 10/15/09 04:18 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20

"He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin." Proverbs 13:3

"Do not let your mouth lead you into sin..." Ecclesiastes 5:6

"Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For, "Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil." Who is going to harm you if you are eager to do good? But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed." I Peter 3:8-14

"For it is commendable if a man bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because he is conscious of God. But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. "He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth." When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed." I Peter 2:19-24

"Listen, for I have worthy things to say; I open my lips to speak what is right. My mouth speaks what is true, for my lips detest wickedness. All the words of my mouth are just; none of them is crooked or perverse." Proverbs 8:6-8

"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1

"A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel." Proverbs 15:18

"He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity." Proverbs 21:23

I blew all of these yet again.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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