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#1853716 - 10/10/09 10:09 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
C-Bart Offline
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Kevin,
Please check in every once and a while so we know how you are doing.
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#1854705 - 10/13/09 12:32 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: C-Bart]
K4D Offline
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Proverbs chapter 29 verse 11
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.

This is one I am having to apply during tough situations. I am learning it well to.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855662 - 10/14/09 01:57 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Quick question,

D11 has a choir performance tomorrow night at 6:30. W has the girls this week. Would it be to much to ask W if she would like to do dinner with the kids afterwards?

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855673 - 10/14/09 02:01 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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I wouldn't do it.
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#1855684 - 10/14/09 02:16 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Virtually_Handsome]
K4D Offline
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Ok. Thanks.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855700 - 10/14/09 02:32 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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She would take it as pursuing. You are still making it about you. Respect her boundaries.

Sorry Kev. You need to detach and let go.

Give her 6 mons. then reevaulate.

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#1855719 - 10/14/09 02:54 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
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Much apprech,

Thanks.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855724 - 10/14/09 03:05 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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No Prob.

Dont forget the story about the castle and the picnic. If and when she starts to lower her draw bridge is when you ask about getting together. She needs to see how happy and content you are with your new life before she will even think of pursuing you again. Remember it's a game of cat and mouse. Be the mouse!!! not the cat. Grrrrr!!!

Work on that and then you could see some miracles.

Peace. PMA

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#1855733 - 10/14/09 03:17 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
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I'm going to go against the general group and say ask for the dinner. DB-ing aside, this is a special moment for your D. Let it be about her.

If you are doing it to get together with your W, then forget it. But if you are there solely for the purpose of supporting your D and congratulating her for her efforts, then ask. Only you would know if you can be distant enough to act accordingly.
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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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#1855740 - 10/14/09 03:26 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
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Working on it PMA. I have to tell you that lifting weights every other day and then doing the treadmill on my off days has really improved me mentally. I completely changed my diet around and am eating much healthier and quite cheaply at that. I am keeping my place up and W came over and saw it last Friday and I feel better about my place as well.

I get my girls tonight. I will be taking them to choir practice at the church and then heading home for dinner and some time together. Tonight is my night to lift weights. But I won't see my girls again til Sunday, so I am debating whether to put it off until tomorrow. I hate to miss a day on my schedule though. I am working hard to be consistant. It takes about an hour out of my evening.

Overall I am doing good. I feel physically and mentally better than I have in a very long time.

I had dinner and went to a movie with FaithfulH and one of his sons this past Sunday night and that was very enjoyable.

Kevin


Edited by K4D (10/14/09 03:36 PM)
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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