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antlers #1852232 10/08/09 04:30 AM
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Thanks ppenton and antlers,

I went and got my hair cut after work and then hung out with friends for about an hour. Then I came home and went to lift weights in the gym room for an hour. I'm pretty tired from that. But I feel good.

I am putting the effort into me and it feels good. I'm not going to stop.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1852375 10/08/09 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted By: K4D

I am putting the effort into me and it feels good. I'm not going to stop.

Kevin


Good, just keep going


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Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09
Me stronger and happier everyday!
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Kev,

Good for you keep it up. Are you still doing that, I think it was, 100 pushup thing? I finally found a nice gym to work out at, it's amazing how much better you feel getting that exercise in.


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VD, I stupidly injured my back doing those push ups and now my leg has not quit hurting from it. So I am doing controlled weights in the weight room instead. No injuries from wrong form that way.

I am sore today from my work out. My plan is to lift weights 3 times a week and excerise at least twice a week. I am also going to real dance lessons now. They offer the lessons free at a couple different places on Sundays, Thursdays and Fridays. Now I just have to also get time back in to get back to studying as well.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1852579 10/08/09 05:51 PM
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Tonight it is going to be, pick up the kids after work, make dinner, then go excercise for an hour, then come back and clean up their room with them and spend some time with them and call it a night.

Oh, and we will get a short bible lesson in there as well.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1852977 10/09/09 01:50 PM
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I exercised last night. I went on the treadmill for 3 miles. My girls got their room cleaned. We had dinner together. Then we had a storm most of the night. We had to stop by W's house this morning on the way to school to get D7's jacket. I am not sure what happened to the one I had for her.

Tonight is my appointment with my priest and then me and the girls are going to put together pizza's for dinner. I bought the stuff to make our own. I thought that would be fun to do together.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1853080 10/09/09 04:00 PM
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BTW...

I do feel like I am finally detaching unlike I ever have before. I am starting to enjoy myself. I am not feeling that pull as much now as I have the past year. I feel somewhat released in the sense that I am able to function and pursue life on my own. I want my W back. But I don't feel like I have to have her back to function as me anymore.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1853105 10/09/09 04:37 PM
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Awesome progress Kevin.

I have believed all along that working on ones self and making one content and happy gives the marriage a much better chance of getting reconciled. And as an added benefit, if the marriage does end in a divorce, it allows one the ability to heal and move on much quicker. In a way, it is like a preparation for the worst case senario.

smith18 #1853307 10/09/09 08:43 PM
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Thanks KerryK,

I'm working it for me. I am now seeing where I am much more appealing when I focus on myself than when I focus on W.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1853502 10/10/09 07:13 AM
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I will continue to post if anything worth while happens.

Thanks all,

CYA,

Kevin

Last edited by K4D; 10/10/09 07:14 AM.

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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