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K4D #1849696 10/04/09 01:12 AM
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I went out and bought myself some new clothes today. It was time to get rid of the bigger ones since I have lost weight. Got myself a new belt to.

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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
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1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
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K4D #1850136 10/05/09 03:06 AM
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That's great about the weight Kevin! Congrats!

Also big that your W slipped in a Happy Birthday. I haven't gotten one of those in two years.


Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
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"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
jon2911 #1850173 10/05/09 03:58 AM
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Congrats on needing new clothes. I am glad you did the dancing lesson. Sounds like fun.


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Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
S-8
D-4
D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
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BobbiJo #1850388 10/05/09 03:22 PM
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Thanks. I have a friend who really came down hard on me for not taking better care of myself. So I am buying more new shirts this week that have style, getting a stylish hair cut. I have been working on my apartment to keep it looking nice. I am doing somethings that I haven't really done this past year.

I am trying to take pride in myself and my home and my car. It is taking a bit of work, but it is getting there.

I was told to spend at least 10 minutes in the mirror checking everything over before I go out.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1850392 10/05/09 03:27 PM
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Also having to remember to shave each day and not chew with my mouth open.

The details I am getting are good and coming at me hard.

Someone is working to clean up my act completely so that with time I will feel better about myself and maybe, just maybe, might W might notice. But either way, it is about me feeling good about how I look and my life.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1850402 10/05/09 03:42 PM
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Sorry for bumping but Kevin, 25, and anyone else out there that can check out my sitch and give advice I would greatly appreciate it. Don't know if I did the right thing as far as DBusting.

Thanks

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H 35
D 12
S 18
Separated 11/08
K4D #1850416 10/05/09 04:05 PM
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Kevin, I am doing much of what you are, for me, not for my spouse. I think the more organized we are, the better we look/feel, the better off we will be.

It is hard enough to feel stressed about my marriage, but if my house is a cluttered mess, if I schlump along in old, boring clothes, if I don't like how my body looks or how out-of-shape I feel, it is that much worse. That was me last Jan/Feb. This summer/fall I have lost 13 pounds, gotten my hair cut/highlighted, bought new clothes two weeks ago, and really focused on cleaning the house and organizing things.
Not trying to hijack, just agreeing with you that these are all GOOD, necessary things. It is so nice to come home to a house that is in order at the end of the day. One less thing to weigh you down, right?

And although it is about us, not them, it is still nice when they notice. My H had to spend the night at my house Saturday night b/c I went out of town. He commented that the house was 'spotless'. So, yes, they do notice...


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Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
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D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
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BobbiJo #1850432 10/05/09 04:19 PM
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BBJ,

I am with you. They do notice when you make REAL AUTHENTIC LASTING changes. Anyone can pull it off for a day or 2. It is when it is consistent that they will start to notice.

I am having to learn how to be consistent which takes work when you are so used to the old way of presenting yourself and your life.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1851480 10/07/09 02:33 AM
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The girls and I went to our C appointment tonight and we all have homework to do.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
K4D #1851533 10/07/09 04:31 AM
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Good luck on the homework Kevin! Keep the changes going.


Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
Responded, now dark
"I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
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